A friend of mine had got back with his wife, but during there split she moved to Va. and he had got in trouble with the law, and was on probation in md but against probation officers word he went down Va. and got caught with 20thousand and some drugs. so any way he got out on bail 2-3-08 in Md. and on 3-5-08 got caught with 3pounds of marijuana coul he get out of this if he had the right lawyer and money or is his goose cooked no matter how much money he has???NO SARCASM OR JOKES ONLY PEOPLE WITH KNOWLEDGe OF THE LAW?
In my experience...Money talks.Unfortunately.NO SARCASM OR JOKES ONLY PEOPLE WITH KNOWLEDGe OF THE LAW?
With a good lawyer, very wealthy people frequently get away with things that the less well-off cannot, alas. If your friend knows of such a lawyer, who has a record of successfully defending clients who appeared to be in no-hope situations before their trials, he'd be advised to employ him or her.
Essentially, your friend committed crimes and has a prior criminal record, and should be prepared to accept the punishment for what he did. A good lawyer can make all the difference, but can often only negotiate a better deal or settlement.
Even if he had the right lawyer he would not be able to get out of this. He's had a history with drugs in the past as you've mentioned and on top of that marijuana is considered illegal (unless distributed to you by a hospital facility for medical purposes BUT even then 3 pounds of marijuana is a lot) so him having possession of something illegal is a crime itself.
I'm no lawyer but I've studied some law and dealt with courts.
From what you explain your friend is in a bunch of trouble. Specially because he was charged twice in just over a month AFTER violating his probation terms, which can only play against this persons case. Secondly was the amount of drugs he possessed. 3 pounds of marijuana can be possession with the intent to sell.
Unless he gets a genius lawyer your friend is in a world of trouble.
He could be charged with 4 to 5 different charges.
That is a probation vilolation and another charge with drugs, he will probably do time of whatever he was on probation for at the least unless he has the dream team working for him.
the only one not going to jail is his lawyer. your pal needs a sign around his neck saying';stoopid'; sorry.
On probation; caught with 20K %26amp; drugs; while on bail caught with 3 lb grass.
Jail time. Period
Instead of worrying about what will happen to him, you need to find a better group of friends.
Friday, October 22, 2010
How do i regain my wifes trust, at least some of it?
Over the course of 3 years I have done some really stupid things that has totally ruined the trust that my wife had in me. She never really fully trusted me in what I had to say or anything I did from day one. She had good reason and I wanted more than anything for her to trust me. I had treated her really bad the first 2 years we dated and she kept her distance then my world totally fell apart and I needed someone and she was there for me and helped me get through a tuff time and get back on my feet. And to be honest I kept crapping on her, she just kept plugging away about getting her life together and takeing care of her 4 kids and my 5kids. She kept telling me that she did not have time for my bull and as soon as my 3 boys were big enough to fend for theirselves she was gone. So when the 2 oldest got out of the house and the 3rd one started his Senior year and moved in with his girlfriend, she did just that, she moved 200 miles away from me. I missed her something horrible and promised to change and do better if she would just come home and marry me. She refused to give her home, job and new life up for me but agreed to give me another chance, but at a long distance relationship. I wanted her back so I agreed. The woman stayed on my back even harder because we were so far apart. After awhile I promised her that is she would just marry me I would make things work by comeing to live with her in her new home and find work there. She agreed and we talked about it and then made plans to get married. I even screwed that up, we were supposed to go to KY get married and spend a romantic weekend away alone. well to start off with I was 6 hours late to get married, I showed up in dirty clothes and smelled of alcohol and marijuana, but she still married me, chalked it up to me being scared. Then when I said i didn't have a ring for her but she had one for me, she still went through with it and said ';I DO';, then as we left to drive to our weekend get-away that she so thoughtfully planned and reserved, I decided to go back to my home instead and we sat on the couch and watched TV and I got drunk. I stayed that way and she left and went back home. I disappointed my wife but she stuck by me. Then I got into trouble agin and ended up on house arrest for the entire summer, 3 long months so I could not go see her, she would come down once a week, do my errands (store, laundry, bank, bills, post office) not speak and go home. By this time I had gotten so depressed that i had 3 affairs on her between May and August, when I got off house arrest, she gave me divorce papers. I asked ';why now?'; And she told me that she didn't want to make my situation any worse but she was done and to please just take the divorce papers to my attorney, go over them and sign them. She asked me for nothing but a signature and her name back. Well of course I refused to let go that easy, so I started going up to spend every weekend with her and then meet her in the middle every tuesday just trying to fix thing. She didn't really want me in her home on a full time basis. She spent time with me and started to forgive me and let me into her life under her conditions and I agreed. well the day before thanksgiving i screwed up again and got into trouble and this time I lost my job. So now I am with her full-time, there is no excuse not to be. She chewed on me very hard for a week and is angry with me. She says everytime I get into trouble i run and hide behind her and she is right. Otherwise I dont want to be here. She wont hear me out on anything, she just says dont talk to me and then you wont lie to me anymore. She lets me stay, cooks for me and takes care of me, but we dont talk and dont communicate. She works nites 4 days a week. When she is home at nite she sleeps on the couch away from me and this just smothers me, I lay awake and watch her sleep. If she falls asleep on her bed and i lay down she gets up to leave. She wont confide in me and just tells me that she is doing what is right until I can take care of myself agin. Our 1st wedding anniversary was on Dec 7th. She never even acknowledged it. I reminded her about 9pm that nite by telling her what day it was and that it was our anniversary and she just said ';I Know'; and kept watching TV. She has never cheated on me or done me wrong in any manner. She is good to me and the list of things I have done to her is so long and so wrong I cant take them back.
I want my wife to love me and trust me. I want to keep her and have a family and a home. She has so much to offer and a good heart. But I dont know where or how to start. I cant make her forget all I have done but I wish I could get her to see how I will do better and make a difference.How do i regain my wifes trust, at least some of it?
Have you ever looked in a mirror and seen your potential? Your wife has obviously seen things in you that you do not. No woman would stay with you behaving the way you did, unless she seen human compassion, true talent, and a heart worth its weight in the pain you have caused her. With the amount of time she has loved you, I would say yes you have a chance. But you must stop the petty poor me behavior. You messed up but you are redeemable. Get a job, clean up around the house. Do nice things for her (make a bath for her with candles, cook dinner, clean the one part of the house that she hates) show that you are worthy and sorry. Tell her you love her every day, even if she doesnt respond she will know. Know that she will never forget what you have done but they will fade to a distant memory. When you leave the house leave notes, call when you get there and when you are on your way home. Do for her what she has done for you, love her and support her, and do not give up if you truly love her. You can do it, just stop saying what is it you should do and use her as your role model.How do i regain my wifes trust, at least some of it?
Are you for real? You are lucky she gave you more than one chance. There is no way I would have married you second time around with you showing up late, etc etc. Give her up man and let her enjoy life with someone who will appreciate her, even being by herself is better than being with you.
Honesty + Consistency = Trust
You are going to have to do what you say you will do for a long while before you are going to get the results you want. With a track record like you described it is going to take time and energy for her to believe you again. Blessings and long on your journey. She sounds like she is certainly worth it!!!!
So, be lovable and trustworthy. Quit being a nightmare of a leech. Sounds like you could use AA, where you might learn how to be the man she deserves. But something tells me this is all feel sorry for myself talk. Why change? She takes care of you, right?
You say she has so much to offer but what have you offered her? What are willing to do for her? She took care of your kids while you had fun. It sounds like she's done but the only way you are going to make it work if there is a remote chance is by praying and getting your life together.
I've seen the Lord do miracles in many, many marriages before. You never know. Besides, what do you have to lose now?
Your are a complete loser, and she must be an idiot with a big heart.
Only in Kentucky.
Ahh.... you're wife's so sweet:) I think you should do something that she will really love. ya know like take her out 2 dinner or buy her something special. She'll probably love you again
Wow, you are one lucky dog man. I don't really understand you.
I also don't understand why she's putting up with you on her couch.
Since you didn't get her a present for your anniversary I think it's over.
You need to get a job and get out, basically. Once you have something to offer her, you should call her. She clearly loves you.
Ya know???
I read this, and I'd have walked away from you years ago, hon....kids or no kids...... Marriage is Admiration Respect Passion and Trust. There is nothing you are that is admirable, anything to respect or have passion for, and you have already admitted the trust is gone.... Hon, when the trust is gone, by all the crap that you pulled, the rest of it is in the toilet. You don't have a marriage, hon....
And unless she is willing to get into therapy to correct all this (unlikely) you stay under her terms.
well its going to be hard, your going to have to completely create a new history for yourself. get a good job, and tell her about that. maybe just start by calling her every once in a while, and telling her about all the things you are willing to do to make a difference. its going to take a while but im sure you can do it.
You don't deserve her, the fact that she has taken you back so many times and that you are in her house is mind blowing!! There is no way to win someone's trust back after all that you have done. If you TRUELY love her...let her go, get out of her life and don't allow her to waste even one more minute taking care of you or doing anything for you. Give her her life back, you can't give her back all the years you have taken from her but you can let her start living her life for her instead of waiting until the next time you do her wrong AGAIN, and you will you know it and I know it
wow.... uhhh.. well.... first off.... you suck
and kudos to her for staying with a loser..... if my husband ever even THOUGHT of doing half the crap you did he would have his *** handed to him, and would be denied of even acknowledging that he knew me....
it doesn't even sound like you are trying... not one bit... it honestly sounds like a bunch of whining about how bad your life is.. or wait how bad you've made her life... and how you refuse to change it....
i think at this point you should take a broom and sweep up whatever dignity you have left and ruin someone else's life and leave her to be happy with someone else that will appreciate her and treat her the way that she deserves to be treated....
maybe you should fix your problems so that you can have something to offer her.... besides more for her to clean up
wow. you are on peice of crap husband but for some odd reason she sees something in you and obviously loves you like no other. you should be thanking your stars shes still around to save your a** every time you screw up cuz i guarantee after a while i would have left you to figure it out yourself. whats wrong with you??! why on earth would you do these things to a woman who is like...the best women ever i swear? you really dont deserve her. you should get a job and get out and let her be. i really think that if you do love her...you should let her move on and be with a guy who would treat her like a princess. she DEFINATELY deserves it. i know your in pain...but sayin is...if you love something let it go. LET HER MOVE ON and quit ruining her life. you need to work on yourself. then maybe when your done bettering yourself maybe just then shell still be around for you...
I want my wife to love me and trust me. I want to keep her and have a family and a home. She has so much to offer and a good heart. But I dont know where or how to start. I cant make her forget all I have done but I wish I could get her to see how I will do better and make a difference.How do i regain my wifes trust, at least some of it?
Have you ever looked in a mirror and seen your potential? Your wife has obviously seen things in you that you do not. No woman would stay with you behaving the way you did, unless she seen human compassion, true talent, and a heart worth its weight in the pain you have caused her. With the amount of time she has loved you, I would say yes you have a chance. But you must stop the petty poor me behavior. You messed up but you are redeemable. Get a job, clean up around the house. Do nice things for her (make a bath for her with candles, cook dinner, clean the one part of the house that she hates) show that you are worthy and sorry. Tell her you love her every day, even if she doesnt respond she will know. Know that she will never forget what you have done but they will fade to a distant memory. When you leave the house leave notes, call when you get there and when you are on your way home. Do for her what she has done for you, love her and support her, and do not give up if you truly love her. You can do it, just stop saying what is it you should do and use her as your role model.How do i regain my wifes trust, at least some of it?
Are you for real? You are lucky she gave you more than one chance. There is no way I would have married you second time around with you showing up late, etc etc. Give her up man and let her enjoy life with someone who will appreciate her, even being by herself is better than being with you.
Honesty + Consistency = Trust
You are going to have to do what you say you will do for a long while before you are going to get the results you want. With a track record like you described it is going to take time and energy for her to believe you again. Blessings and long on your journey. She sounds like she is certainly worth it!!!!
So, be lovable and trustworthy. Quit being a nightmare of a leech. Sounds like you could use AA, where you might learn how to be the man she deserves. But something tells me this is all feel sorry for myself talk. Why change? She takes care of you, right?
You say she has so much to offer but what have you offered her? What are willing to do for her? She took care of your kids while you had fun. It sounds like she's done but the only way you are going to make it work if there is a remote chance is by praying and getting your life together.
I've seen the Lord do miracles in many, many marriages before. You never know. Besides, what do you have to lose now?
Your are a complete loser, and she must be an idiot with a big heart.
Only in Kentucky.
Ahh.... you're wife's so sweet:) I think you should do something that she will really love. ya know like take her out 2 dinner or buy her something special. She'll probably love you again
Wow, you are one lucky dog man. I don't really understand you.
I also don't understand why she's putting up with you on her couch.
Since you didn't get her a present for your anniversary I think it's over.
You need to get a job and get out, basically. Once you have something to offer her, you should call her. She clearly loves you.
Ya know???
I read this, and I'd have walked away from you years ago, hon....kids or no kids...... Marriage is Admiration Respect Passion and Trust. There is nothing you are that is admirable, anything to respect or have passion for, and you have already admitted the trust is gone.... Hon, when the trust is gone, by all the crap that you pulled, the rest of it is in the toilet. You don't have a marriage, hon....
And unless she is willing to get into therapy to correct all this (unlikely) you stay under her terms.
well its going to be hard, your going to have to completely create a new history for yourself. get a good job, and tell her about that. maybe just start by calling her every once in a while, and telling her about all the things you are willing to do to make a difference. its going to take a while but im sure you can do it.
You don't deserve her, the fact that she has taken you back so many times and that you are in her house is mind blowing!! There is no way to win someone's trust back after all that you have done. If you TRUELY love her...let her go, get out of her life and don't allow her to waste even one more minute taking care of you or doing anything for you. Give her her life back, you can't give her back all the years you have taken from her but you can let her start living her life for her instead of waiting until the next time you do her wrong AGAIN, and you will you know it and I know it
wow.... uhhh.. well.... first off.... you suck
and kudos to her for staying with a loser..... if my husband ever even THOUGHT of doing half the crap you did he would have his *** handed to him, and would be denied of even acknowledging that he knew me....
it doesn't even sound like you are trying... not one bit... it honestly sounds like a bunch of whining about how bad your life is.. or wait how bad you've made her life... and how you refuse to change it....
i think at this point you should take a broom and sweep up whatever dignity you have left and ruin someone else's life and leave her to be happy with someone else that will appreciate her and treat her the way that she deserves to be treated....
maybe you should fix your problems so that you can have something to offer her.... besides more for her to clean up
wow. you are on peice of crap husband but for some odd reason she sees something in you and obviously loves you like no other. you should be thanking your stars shes still around to save your a** every time you screw up cuz i guarantee after a while i would have left you to figure it out yourself. whats wrong with you??! why on earth would you do these things to a woman who is like...the best women ever i swear? you really dont deserve her. you should get a job and get out and let her be. i really think that if you do love her...you should let her move on and be with a guy who would treat her like a princess. she DEFINATELY deserves it. i know your in pain...but sayin is...if you love something let it go. LET HER MOVE ON and quit ruining her life. you need to work on yourself. then maybe when your done bettering yourself maybe just then shell still be around for you...
Trouble with interfering MIL?
I have spoken to my husband on multiple occasions about his mother overstepping her boundaries. I don't allow her to visit often and rarely go to my in-laws house (though I love my FIL). However, since becoming pregnant, she has pushed her way into our daily routines, dropping by just as I'm putting my daughter down for a nap, which gets her hyper and disrupts her night time sleeping patterns. Normally, I would go by the adage of not everyone gets along with their MIL. My problems are more deep-rooted. When I first started dating my husband, I let his mother watch my daughter while we went on a date. When I picked her up, she smelled like marijuana. When I asked MIL about it, she said she did it outside while the baby was asleep, as if that is excusable. My husband was raised by his grandmother because of his mother's drug abuse. On our wedding day, she walked around complaining that she might as well die because nobody was paying any attention to her. Every six months or so, she has some new, incurable disease. Last Thanksgiving it was a hole in her heart, and at Easter is was an inoperable brain tumor. My husband's siblings are now turning attention to me because I will have the newest addition next April, which roughly coincides with MIL's next ailment. This woman is driving me out of my mind. My husband has spoken to her, but she says it is her right to be a part of my entire pregnancy as it is HER grandchild.
With Thanksgiving coming up, how do I handle her?It is unavoidable as we spend Thanksgiving with my husband's side of the family and Christmas with mine. Any ideas on how to cope through 15 hours of this lady? (I do most of the cooking, so I have to be there.) I don't want to be arrested for manslaughter at 19w pregnant.Trouble with interfering MIL?
LOL!!! I don't think we want you arrested for manslaughter at 19 wks pregnant. My dad was similar to your MIL when I got pregnant with my first. He's a good guy, but he has a mental illness where he constantly believes he is sick and dying. I was/am a teen mom, so when I told them I was pregnant, instead of trying to help me move in the right direction he talked about how I had screwed HIS life over. lol. I heard about that for 38 wks! When I moved in with my fiance he would come by our house to ';check on us.'; Then he would talk about what a terrible head ache he had, how his back hurt, and how he just wanted to take a nap, and he would fall asleep on my couch. I found there was really nothing I could do, so I moved to Alaska, and because he's too cheap to pay to see us he leaves us alone.
Don't kill your MIL. lol. It might ruin your relationship with your FIL.
Best of luck!!!Trouble with interfering MIL?
im sorry, i deal with a FIL who i cannot stand...it sucks being stuck where you cannot really say anything...but even when your husband does it helps ZERO.
i would say get tipsy beforehand...but yea, you dont need to do that. idk how to tell you to deal with it cause everyone has different personalities and takes ';news'; of being annoying different. so what may ';work'; (yea right, nothing works) with my FIL probably wont with her. and honestly, i dont think it ever stops unless you finally lash out and let everything you have always wanted to say be said...but that may start a big family feud, and is not worth it. sorry, but maybe just avoid HER even though you cannot avoid being in the same house.
I have two drama queens in my family that do the same thing, my mom and her mother, So I know it is hard to deal with but hang in there. You can't kill her and you can't make her vanish so just try your hardest to keep her at a distance because smoking pot while watching your daughter is a huge red flag. My advice to you is tell her to stay away from you because she is causing you alot of stress that you and the baby don't need then explain that to your husband. Good Luck.
With Thanksgiving coming up, how do I handle her?It is unavoidable as we spend Thanksgiving with my husband's side of the family and Christmas with mine. Any ideas on how to cope through 15 hours of this lady? (I do most of the cooking, so I have to be there.) I don't want to be arrested for manslaughter at 19w pregnant.Trouble with interfering MIL?
LOL!!! I don't think we want you arrested for manslaughter at 19 wks pregnant. My dad was similar to your MIL when I got pregnant with my first. He's a good guy, but he has a mental illness where he constantly believes he is sick and dying. I was/am a teen mom, so when I told them I was pregnant, instead of trying to help me move in the right direction he talked about how I had screwed HIS life over. lol. I heard about that for 38 wks! When I moved in with my fiance he would come by our house to ';check on us.'; Then he would talk about what a terrible head ache he had, how his back hurt, and how he just wanted to take a nap, and he would fall asleep on my couch. I found there was really nothing I could do, so I moved to Alaska, and because he's too cheap to pay to see us he leaves us alone.
Don't kill your MIL. lol. It might ruin your relationship with your FIL.
Best of luck!!!Trouble with interfering MIL?
im sorry, i deal with a FIL who i cannot stand...it sucks being stuck where you cannot really say anything...but even when your husband does it helps ZERO.
i would say get tipsy beforehand...but yea, you dont need to do that. idk how to tell you to deal with it cause everyone has different personalities and takes ';news'; of being annoying different. so what may ';work'; (yea right, nothing works) with my FIL probably wont with her. and honestly, i dont think it ever stops unless you finally lash out and let everything you have always wanted to say be said...but that may start a big family feud, and is not worth it. sorry, but maybe just avoid HER even though you cannot avoid being in the same house.
I have two drama queens in my family that do the same thing, my mom and her mother, So I know it is hard to deal with but hang in there. You can't kill her and you can't make her vanish so just try your hardest to keep her at a distance because smoking pot while watching your daughter is a huge red flag. My advice to you is tell her to stay away from you because she is causing you alot of stress that you and the baby don't need then explain that to your husband. Good Luck.
Bad depression problem need some advice?
This probably isnt the best place to ask for help on my dillemma but i have no one else who understands me.Here we go..Im 20 years old and at the moment trying my hardest to get back on my feet financially due to being unemployed for a while and my last two jobs had terrible bosses so i left all my life ive suffered financial disadvantage which has left me in bad/complicted situations i don't even have a drivers license yet nor a learners permit because i still havent been able to afford it.Im at the moment studying (doing a course) which is 4 days a week and am on centrelink (government payments) for studying and they paid for my course.Im struggling to afford train fairs because i dont get enough because i pay board money i live out of home.So ive had to do only 4 days a week studying.There are days ive had off of school due to no money and i lie to the course co-ordinater and say i can't make it because im ill.I have been in and out of home since i was 14 years old due to my stepfather being abusive towards me and my mother ( she is still with him).I only recently moved out of home again because of his interference with my personal relationships asking questions about my sex life and the erotic modelling i used to do at a time of desperation (payment).I can't live under the same roof as him because of the snicky nosing and him being very greedy.He claims everything in the house including my mums money is only his.And during the years when major arguments have happened he has broken belongings of mine (that ive bought myself) or my mums.And recently he smashed my computer up so i now use my friends and on that night took all of mums money for himself before leaving.Whatever foods he wants for dinner mum cooks it to avoid arguments and him going wacko,at times we'd eat the same thing (mum and i) to save her cooking different meals each night.When i was living at home mum told me not to have any conversations with him because he tries to turn it into an argument he thrives on them.And that he didnt like to be left out.I never invited friends around because i was embarressed because he big notes himself and tries to impress.He hasn't many himself because he's not very liked by people.The only ones he has are marijuana smokers like himself.I know the truth is my mum will never leave him and it hurts alot.And that i couldn't live back at home again because of the way he is in alot of aspects including the safety of my privacy and belongings (he talks about my personal business to his friends).Lately i have been boiling my eyes out like crazy and just can't stop.Im also more or less having suicidal thoughts!!I think about how nice it would be being away from my family and no more pain and sadness.I have been really trying to keep my chin up but failing to do so.I don't want to have these horrible thoughts anymore and want to move on.But can't.My life is just dull and ive had a bad run of luck in it and money has contributed to most of my problems.Without seeing a counseller because i can't afford and im too embarressed to discuss all of this in person what can i do to improve the way i feel????Bad depression problem need some advice?
We need to focus on you, not the past. I would like to help. I can relate to your situation and would like to offer sugestions. Would you consider e-mailing me?Bad depression problem need some advice?
It is not unusual to have serious depression after being physically and emotionally abused. You really need therapy and a psychiatrist to be able to live again because right now, you are not. None of this is your fault even if you wanted sex, or used it to get in his good graces. It takes a long while to recover what you have been through. There are ways to get free help. Call the sexual abuse hot-line and they may be able to help. You can have a life that is without this living hell. I have done it. It has taken many years of therapy. Not only do you have depression,you have post traumatic stress disorder. You did not deserve to experience this. I am so very sorry that you went through such a devastating traumatic life. Stay away from your mother right now. She has betrayed you and does not even know it. Do not be around this man at any time. You can do this and get your rightful life back. If you have suicidal thoughts go to the ER and have yourself admitted to the hospital. They can help you immensely
Sounds to me like you could find alot of joy visiting a local church or temple or such. Even for a service just to start. I am not the church lady type. To all the naysayers reading this. But years ago, this helped me.
1. Forgiveness is the first and hardest step (trust me it's very hard) especially in situiation you are in .
2. Get religeon you don't know how much this help I recommend Christianity, Judaism, or Islam but any is good.
3. Stay at a friends house or a cousin or if you still have grandparents ( im sorry if you dont)
4. Get a job and even though it might not work but try selling things on ebay.
5. Get someone to talk to.
IF you are a Christian, Jewish, or Muslim you will get what you deserve in Judgement Day
I recommend you check out this social networking community called LetsReflect.com. There are people there going through situations similar to yours. They are great for advice and encouragement.
The process of “Self Reflection” has truly changed my life….here’s my profile. http://www.letsreflect.com/profile.php?u…
This is a journey….not a quick fix. The trick is staying positive and surrounding yourself with positive people. You are capable of great things! I believe in you. Best of luck.
Consuming the right food is vital for your health. You can try supplementing your diet with acai berry, it is not only a widely tested and acknowledged weight loss produce, it is a superfood too. There is a risk free trial offered at http://rikump.fatfreestore.info I have been using it for 2 weeks now and it's certainly having an effect!!
Consider volunteering, even from home, at first, as shown in page B, which will act as occupational therapy, help boost self esteem, keep activity out of undesirable parts of the brain, help others, and provide you with something to tell prospective employers about your activities since becoming unemployed.
Don't be too picky about the type of job; employers prefer someone already employed (or volunteering). Approach local businesses, restaurants, fast food places, hotels/motels, supermarkets, gas/petrol stations, etc. and leave your contact details, even if just jotted down on a piece of cardboard. Such places are always hiring. Keep in mind that the economy is in the process of turning around, at present, and employers will soon be hiring again in larger numbers, but at present, there can be many applications for any given vacancy. Remain resolutely optimistic, and maintain a positive mental attitude. Use the TECHNIQUE FOR COMBATING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, on page B, as necessary. A useful counterthought is: ';Things will get better soon';. Or make up your own. Repeat if necessary. Contact your county/local mental health agency, to see what help they can provide. Sliding scale based psychological counselling is often available from Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, or Unitarian Universalists, and sometimes the United Way. You don't have to be a member. Google: ';clinics; mhmr; (your location)'; %26amp; ';free clinics; (your location)'; Also contact your local department of human services and apply for state health care. See http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/21/health… Talk with a social worker, via your local free clinic, (Google: ';free clinic; [your location] ) or public hospital. Local is best, or (202) 408 8600. They often have useful advice, and contacts. Have a list of questions prepared, and jot down answers. Food stamps: http://www.fns.usda.gov/fsp Phone: 1800 221 5689. Check out http://www.socialsecurity.gov Dept. of Children and Families. Enquire about Medicaid Insurance. Other advice that I am aware of is to contact your local social services department and apply for state medicaid, then find a doctor who accepts it. See http://www.walmart.com/catalog/catalog.g… for generic mental health medication, at $4/month's supply, or $10/90 days; (more in CA., and 8 other US states) also try calling Target pharmaceuticals. View www.pparx.org/ and call 1-888-4PP-ANOW (1-888-477-2669), if financially disadvantaged in the USA, and seeking a bipolar medication subsidy. Also see www.needymeds.com/ %26amp; www.low-cost-rx.com/ Some pharmaceutical companies will provide medications free, or at reduced cost, depending on the circumstances of the applicant; qualification guidelines vary.
We need to focus on you, not the past. I would like to help. I can relate to your situation and would like to offer sugestions. Would you consider e-mailing me?Bad depression problem need some advice?
It is not unusual to have serious depression after being physically and emotionally abused. You really need therapy and a psychiatrist to be able to live again because right now, you are not. None of this is your fault even if you wanted sex, or used it to get in his good graces. It takes a long while to recover what you have been through. There are ways to get free help. Call the sexual abuse hot-line and they may be able to help. You can have a life that is without this living hell. I have done it. It has taken many years of therapy. Not only do you have depression,you have post traumatic stress disorder. You did not deserve to experience this. I am so very sorry that you went through such a devastating traumatic life. Stay away from your mother right now. She has betrayed you and does not even know it. Do not be around this man at any time. You can do this and get your rightful life back. If you have suicidal thoughts go to the ER and have yourself admitted to the hospital. They can help you immensely
Sounds to me like you could find alot of joy visiting a local church or temple or such. Even for a service just to start. I am not the church lady type. To all the naysayers reading this. But years ago, this helped me.
1. Forgiveness is the first and hardest step (trust me it's very hard) especially in situiation you are in .
2. Get religeon you don't know how much this help I recommend Christianity, Judaism, or Islam but any is good.
3. Stay at a friends house or a cousin or if you still have grandparents ( im sorry if you dont)
4. Get a job and even though it might not work but try selling things on ebay.
5. Get someone to talk to.
IF you are a Christian, Jewish, or Muslim you will get what you deserve in Judgement Day
I recommend you check out this social networking community called LetsReflect.com. There are people there going through situations similar to yours. They are great for advice and encouragement.
The process of “Self Reflection” has truly changed my life….here’s my profile. http://www.letsreflect.com/profile.php?u…
This is a journey….not a quick fix. The trick is staying positive and surrounding yourself with positive people. You are capable of great things! I believe in you. Best of luck.
Consuming the right food is vital for your health. You can try supplementing your diet with acai berry, it is not only a widely tested and acknowledged weight loss produce, it is a superfood too. There is a risk free trial offered at http://rikump.fatfreestore.info I have been using it for 2 weeks now and it's certainly having an effect!!
Consider volunteering, even from home, at first, as shown in page B, which will act as occupational therapy, help boost self esteem, keep activity out of undesirable parts of the brain, help others, and provide you with something to tell prospective employers about your activities since becoming unemployed.
Don't be too picky about the type of job; employers prefer someone already employed (or volunteering). Approach local businesses, restaurants, fast food places, hotels/motels, supermarkets, gas/petrol stations, etc. and leave your contact details, even if just jotted down on a piece of cardboard. Such places are always hiring. Keep in mind that the economy is in the process of turning around, at present, and employers will soon be hiring again in larger numbers, but at present, there can be many applications for any given vacancy. Remain resolutely optimistic, and maintain a positive mental attitude. Use the TECHNIQUE FOR COMBATING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, on page B, as necessary. A useful counterthought is: ';Things will get better soon';. Or make up your own. Repeat if necessary. Contact your county/local mental health agency, to see what help they can provide. Sliding scale based psychological counselling is often available from Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, or Unitarian Universalists, and sometimes the United Way. You don't have to be a member. Google: ';clinics; mhmr; (your location)'; %26amp; ';free clinics; (your location)'; Also contact your local department of human services and apply for state health care. See http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/21/health… Talk with a social worker, via your local free clinic, (Google: ';free clinic; [your location] ) or public hospital. Local is best, or (202) 408 8600. They often have useful advice, and contacts. Have a list of questions prepared, and jot down answers. Food stamps: http://www.fns.usda.gov/fsp Phone: 1800 221 5689. Check out http://www.socialsecurity.gov Dept. of Children and Families. Enquire about Medicaid Insurance. Other advice that I am aware of is to contact your local social services department and apply for state medicaid, then find a doctor who accepts it. See http://www.walmart.com/catalog/catalog.g… for generic mental health medication, at $4/month's supply, or $10/90 days; (more in CA., and 8 other US states) also try calling Target pharmaceuticals. View www.pparx.org/ and call 1-888-4PP-ANOW (1-888-477-2669), if financially disadvantaged in the USA, and seeking a bipolar medication subsidy. Also see www.needymeds.com/ %26amp; www.low-cost-rx.com/ Some pharmaceutical companies will provide medications free, or at reduced cost, depending on the circumstances of the applicant; qualification guidelines vary.
I am sure a lot of people are gonna give me grief, but I need advice?Probably Very long...?
My husband and I have been married 3 1/2 years. We've been together for 6 1/2. We have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. That said, here are my problems:
I bought a car right after having my daughter. It was a loan of $13000. I had a 700 credit score at the time. I had never bought a car before and had no clue what I was doing and ended up not getting a warranty. During the time I had the car (9months) it broke down numerous times and I spent over $2700 in repairs. That being said, I could not make the payments and I asked them to pick up the car. They repo'd because I asked them to. The then sold the car for only $1000. Now they want $12000 paid to them. I have no money in savings. I have no money period.
When my daighter was 3 months old, I was laid off from my job. Work was very slow and they could not afford to pay me anymore. I took a big hit and couldn't find work for 3 months. When I finally found work it was $9 an hour and barely enough to make ends meet.
I worked there for 9 months and then my husband found the same fate as me and was laid off. He could not find work again for 8 months. When he finally found a job it was 50 miles away and he worked there for 6 months before they had to let him go becuase their company was failing with the economy and they lost a big client.
When I wass laid off, I needed money and I stupidly went to Cash Call. They gave me a $2500 loan and 59% interest which I didn't find out about until they mailed the paperwork. Everything had been done over the phone. I paid payments for over a year and a half and the payoff was still well over $3000 due to the interest. I finally made a big payment of $2000 but they still say I owe them $1700. I recently stopped paying them. I couldn't handle it anymore.
So now I am way over my head in debt. I have a 520 on my credit, and my husband is 560. We are trying to keep food on the table. my husband is still unemployed and on his second extension.
He has always been a smoker, and now he has picked up drinking. He isn't a drunk, by all means, but he has probably 2 24oz. beers a day. We don't have the money for him to be out spending $4-6 a day. That adds up to $120-160 a month! He also has ADHD and has a medical prescription for marijuana. He doesn't smoke around us but it is legal and prescribed to him. My biggest problem is that he spends about $60 a week on his prescription.
We are badly in debt, and he won't stop drinking or smoking and doesn't understand the amount he spends.
NOW: He is a great dad and husband other than those things. He cooks, cleans, watches the little one EVERYDAY because we cannot afford daycare. He cooks for her, gives her baths, has always changed diapers. He will have dinner ready when I get home and the house will be spotless. He works hard around the yard. He will even do anything I ask of him. If I want a snack from the kitchen, if I want a bath, he will run it. I can tell he really loves both of us and I feel like a bad person sometimes because I want to leave because of the money spending.
How can I deal with this all? What would you do? Maybe this is a plea for help. I love him, but I want him to stop drinking every night. I want him to stop with the cigarettes. He tells me: ';I don't tell you what to do!'; But I don't ever do anything. I don't get my hair done or nails done. I don't spend on anything extra. We don't have Satellite or cable. I don't even go clothes shopping. I own 3 pairs of pants, one pair 2 sizes too big. I can''t even remember the last time I bought anything for myself.
Any questions?
What should I do?I am sure a lot of people are gonna give me grief, but I need advice?Probably Very long...?
Perhaps it's time to file bankruptcy. It can't possibly do any more to your credit, it already sucks big time! Find the money for an initial consult with a lawyer, your hubby can skip his dope for a week to cover it.I am sure a lot of people are gonna give me grief, but I need advice?Probably Very long...?
wow! I don't have a solution and I don't know your beliefs, but I wanted to tell you that you will be in my prayers for sure...Good luck to you
i don't like this but your situation calls for it. file for Bankruptcy now!!!
you need a clean start. you also need to talk to your husband about his drinking and pot smoking. it is something that you guys can not afford.
good luck.
I'm gonna pray for you
You shouldn't let him go over some habits you don't like, smoking is addictive, hence- he can't just stop cold turkey and expect him to oblige in not spending. The drinking is also addictive no matter if he doesn't get very drunk.
Other than his bad habits, he seems like a great hard working and loving husband, those things should definitely overshadow his flaws, because they are more important to keep in your life. You need to just talk to him, in a loving and concerning way, tell him how you feel and how him spending worries you and makes you anxious. Talk it over and I am sure you both can come up with a solution or way to work up to a solution, don't just abondaned him over you own money anxities that don't necessarly completely involve him. Hope it works out.
Put him on a budget. Give him money for the week and let him know once it's gone, that's it. Do the same for yourself. Bills aside, you should still enjoy life. That's why you're feeling so bitter. It's because you feel like your working your butt off but with nothing but more bills to show for it. The bills will always be there. Learn how to get them paid and still have something for yourself. By no means do I mean, have a spa weekend every weekend, but doing nice things for yourself every once in a while is a must.
Also, let him know you understand he might be a bit frustrated by his current position but you're behind him and it will get better. Things will look up eventually...you just gotta hang in there.
Declare bankruptcy. It will mean you can't buy anything in credit for 5 years or so, however it will get you out of this pickle. You and your husband both need to find decent reliable well paying jobs, and start again. You will get through it
Good news! 59% is illegal because it is considered usuary!!
In most states, you don't only get the interest back you paid but sometimes you get 3x the amount they loaned you.
if you are sure you cannot get out from under one thing you can do is file bankruptcy - you can do this yourself by getting the paperwork -
the caution I have for you is that once you do it - your credit is shot for 5 to 7 years -
the good news is that all your debts go away
tough choice -
if you decide to go that route - go out and borrow all the cash you can and buy everything you can on credit BEFORE you file -
and include those debts on the filing
now that doesn't solve the problem of your husband drinking and smoking - but it solves a ';short'; term problem
as far as he's concerned - he has to be able to see the problem himself before he'll help - if doesn't he never will and you will forever have problems -
Stop paying all credit cards and loans. File for bankruptcy.
The husband smokes, you know it, let him do it. As for the beer, 2 a day is too much, talk to him and make a deal for 1 a day or 2 every other day. He's under a lot of stress too. You love him, he's good to you and all of this stress in making you not look at the big picture. Your credit score is just a number, it's not happiness. Who cares about the credit score if you're happy. Go get your nails done and stop feeling guilty. Good luck.
Don't file bankruptcy. You won't be starting a CLEAN slate. Your credit will look WORSE then it does now.
Look for a debt consolidation company OR learn to communicate with your husband about pinching pennies and working your way out of debt.
On a side note i think you two need marriage counseling.
Good luck. Work hard and stick to it.
I hate to say it, but bankruptcy sounds like a good option. You need to get him on a budget pronto!
Bankruptcy.
While it's true you are an adult etc... etc... the people who make loans are responsible for enforcing terms.
It is THEIR FAULT they loaned money to someone that cannot pay it back and a 59% interest is considered predatory and illegal in I believe 49 of the 50 states - all except Nevada. If you have paperwork about this, take it to your lawyer. They'll see settlement $$$ and might take the case on payment for pending successful outcome. They'll get all almost the money but you'll get it taken care of.
Get help getting the bankruptcy over with and give-up on your credit score and live on cash for the next seven years.
Don't give anyone a dime you don't want to; your money is yours.
They took the gamble when they made you the loan.
Loans and credit are NOT ';real money'; they are NOT cash.
They are fake, false, make-believe things those companies /invented/ to make money.
Do not harbor any guilt not paying them back. The deal is you pay it back for a good credit-score or don't for a bad one and that's IT.
You are better off ';off the grid'; anyway. It will force you to live within your means.
your life sounds very stressful, and your hubby may need cigs and beer to cope with the stress. some people cant cope well with stress; you can look down on him for that but you cant do anything about it. in fact, cigs are addictive so he cant simply give it up. it takes a lot of work to over come addictions. But, here's what you can do about it. Give yourself $20 a week to spend on yourself. You already cant pay your bills and will have to file bankrupt. Spending $80 a month isnt going to put you more in debt than you already are, and honestly its a bad idea to completely deprive yourself of everything. Depression isnt going to help your money probs, so use your $80 toward things that make you happy. Take your kid to the zoo, go see a movie with a friend, buy yourself a pair of $15 jeans from walmart, etc.
bankruptcy file around income tax time and do not give up on each other in good times and in bad times stay together no matter what and look for government assistance I don't know how you will get him to stop smoking the pot the more you nag the worse it will be I always go to garage sales or thrift stores and alot of churches give away free stuff look for food pantry's keep your chin up and pray for strength
I bought a car right after having my daughter. It was a loan of $13000. I had a 700 credit score at the time. I had never bought a car before and had no clue what I was doing and ended up not getting a warranty. During the time I had the car (9months) it broke down numerous times and I spent over $2700 in repairs. That being said, I could not make the payments and I asked them to pick up the car. They repo'd because I asked them to. The then sold the car for only $1000. Now they want $12000 paid to them. I have no money in savings. I have no money period.
When my daighter was 3 months old, I was laid off from my job. Work was very slow and they could not afford to pay me anymore. I took a big hit and couldn't find work for 3 months. When I finally found work it was $9 an hour and barely enough to make ends meet.
I worked there for 9 months and then my husband found the same fate as me and was laid off. He could not find work again for 8 months. When he finally found a job it was 50 miles away and he worked there for 6 months before they had to let him go becuase their company was failing with the economy and they lost a big client.
When I wass laid off, I needed money and I stupidly went to Cash Call. They gave me a $2500 loan and 59% interest which I didn't find out about until they mailed the paperwork. Everything had been done over the phone. I paid payments for over a year and a half and the payoff was still well over $3000 due to the interest. I finally made a big payment of $2000 but they still say I owe them $1700. I recently stopped paying them. I couldn't handle it anymore.
So now I am way over my head in debt. I have a 520 on my credit, and my husband is 560. We are trying to keep food on the table. my husband is still unemployed and on his second extension.
He has always been a smoker, and now he has picked up drinking. He isn't a drunk, by all means, but he has probably 2 24oz. beers a day. We don't have the money for him to be out spending $4-6 a day. That adds up to $120-160 a month! He also has ADHD and has a medical prescription for marijuana. He doesn't smoke around us but it is legal and prescribed to him. My biggest problem is that he spends about $60 a week on his prescription.
We are badly in debt, and he won't stop drinking or smoking and doesn't understand the amount he spends.
NOW: He is a great dad and husband other than those things. He cooks, cleans, watches the little one EVERYDAY because we cannot afford daycare. He cooks for her, gives her baths, has always changed diapers. He will have dinner ready when I get home and the house will be spotless. He works hard around the yard. He will even do anything I ask of him. If I want a snack from the kitchen, if I want a bath, he will run it. I can tell he really loves both of us and I feel like a bad person sometimes because I want to leave because of the money spending.
How can I deal with this all? What would you do? Maybe this is a plea for help. I love him, but I want him to stop drinking every night. I want him to stop with the cigarettes. He tells me: ';I don't tell you what to do!'; But I don't ever do anything. I don't get my hair done or nails done. I don't spend on anything extra. We don't have Satellite or cable. I don't even go clothes shopping. I own 3 pairs of pants, one pair 2 sizes too big. I can''t even remember the last time I bought anything for myself.
Any questions?
What should I do?I am sure a lot of people are gonna give me grief, but I need advice?Probably Very long...?
Perhaps it's time to file bankruptcy. It can't possibly do any more to your credit, it already sucks big time! Find the money for an initial consult with a lawyer, your hubby can skip his dope for a week to cover it.I am sure a lot of people are gonna give me grief, but I need advice?Probably Very long...?
wow! I don't have a solution and I don't know your beliefs, but I wanted to tell you that you will be in my prayers for sure...Good luck to you
i don't like this but your situation calls for it. file for Bankruptcy now!!!
you need a clean start. you also need to talk to your husband about his drinking and pot smoking. it is something that you guys can not afford.
good luck.
I'm gonna pray for you
You shouldn't let him go over some habits you don't like, smoking is addictive, hence- he can't just stop cold turkey and expect him to oblige in not spending. The drinking is also addictive no matter if he doesn't get very drunk.
Other than his bad habits, he seems like a great hard working and loving husband, those things should definitely overshadow his flaws, because they are more important to keep in your life. You need to just talk to him, in a loving and concerning way, tell him how you feel and how him spending worries you and makes you anxious. Talk it over and I am sure you both can come up with a solution or way to work up to a solution, don't just abondaned him over you own money anxities that don't necessarly completely involve him. Hope it works out.
Put him on a budget. Give him money for the week and let him know once it's gone, that's it. Do the same for yourself. Bills aside, you should still enjoy life. That's why you're feeling so bitter. It's because you feel like your working your butt off but with nothing but more bills to show for it. The bills will always be there. Learn how to get them paid and still have something for yourself. By no means do I mean, have a spa weekend every weekend, but doing nice things for yourself every once in a while is a must.
Also, let him know you understand he might be a bit frustrated by his current position but you're behind him and it will get better. Things will look up eventually...you just gotta hang in there.
Declare bankruptcy. It will mean you can't buy anything in credit for 5 years or so, however it will get you out of this pickle. You and your husband both need to find decent reliable well paying jobs, and start again. You will get through it
Good news! 59% is illegal because it is considered usuary!!
In most states, you don't only get the interest back you paid but sometimes you get 3x the amount they loaned you.
if you are sure you cannot get out from under one thing you can do is file bankruptcy - you can do this yourself by getting the paperwork -
the caution I have for you is that once you do it - your credit is shot for 5 to 7 years -
the good news is that all your debts go away
tough choice -
if you decide to go that route - go out and borrow all the cash you can and buy everything you can on credit BEFORE you file -
and include those debts on the filing
now that doesn't solve the problem of your husband drinking and smoking - but it solves a ';short'; term problem
as far as he's concerned - he has to be able to see the problem himself before he'll help - if doesn't he never will and you will forever have problems -
Stop paying all credit cards and loans. File for bankruptcy.
The husband smokes, you know it, let him do it. As for the beer, 2 a day is too much, talk to him and make a deal for 1 a day or 2 every other day. He's under a lot of stress too. You love him, he's good to you and all of this stress in making you not look at the big picture. Your credit score is just a number, it's not happiness. Who cares about the credit score if you're happy. Go get your nails done and stop feeling guilty. Good luck.
Don't file bankruptcy. You won't be starting a CLEAN slate. Your credit will look WORSE then it does now.
Look for a debt consolidation company OR learn to communicate with your husband about pinching pennies and working your way out of debt.
On a side note i think you two need marriage counseling.
Good luck. Work hard and stick to it.
I hate to say it, but bankruptcy sounds like a good option. You need to get him on a budget pronto!
Bankruptcy.
While it's true you are an adult etc... etc... the people who make loans are responsible for enforcing terms.
It is THEIR FAULT they loaned money to someone that cannot pay it back and a 59% interest is considered predatory and illegal in I believe 49 of the 50 states - all except Nevada. If you have paperwork about this, take it to your lawyer. They'll see settlement $$$ and might take the case on payment for pending successful outcome. They'll get all almost the money but you'll get it taken care of.
Get help getting the bankruptcy over with and give-up on your credit score and live on cash for the next seven years.
Don't give anyone a dime you don't want to; your money is yours.
They took the gamble when they made you the loan.
Loans and credit are NOT ';real money'; they are NOT cash.
They are fake, false, make-believe things those companies /invented/ to make money.
Do not harbor any guilt not paying them back. The deal is you pay it back for a good credit-score or don't for a bad one and that's IT.
You are better off ';off the grid'; anyway. It will force you to live within your means.
your life sounds very stressful, and your hubby may need cigs and beer to cope with the stress. some people cant cope well with stress; you can look down on him for that but you cant do anything about it. in fact, cigs are addictive so he cant simply give it up. it takes a lot of work to over come addictions. But, here's what you can do about it. Give yourself $20 a week to spend on yourself. You already cant pay your bills and will have to file bankrupt. Spending $80 a month isnt going to put you more in debt than you already are, and honestly its a bad idea to completely deprive yourself of everything. Depression isnt going to help your money probs, so use your $80 toward things that make you happy. Take your kid to the zoo, go see a movie with a friend, buy yourself a pair of $15 jeans from walmart, etc.
bankruptcy file around income tax time and do not give up on each other in good times and in bad times stay together no matter what and look for government assistance I don't know how you will get him to stop smoking the pot the more you nag the worse it will be I always go to garage sales or thrift stores and alot of churches give away free stuff look for food pantry's keep your chin up and pray for strength
How to deal with this or move out?
I'm past my rebellious teen stage %26amp; got along better with my mom when I graduated from HS. things have changed. She's making decisions that I don't agree w/. Such as, dating a guy that smokes marijuana %26amp; deals drugs. I have made it clear that I don't like this guy or want him smoking near our house. She says she'll tell him to quit smoking or she won't be with him, but she is STILL with him %26amp; he still smokes here. She always told me to hang around good ppl, now she is being a hypocrite. I am trying hard to find a summer job bc she expects me to buy my own food, etc. She also never cooks for me, only enough for her and her BF or they eat out. She rarely talks to me and when she does, she complains about little things. I'm always in my room or outbc I don't want to deal w/ them. Im home for summer but I can't stand her, idk if I should move out or just deal w/ it til summer ends. after this summer, im staying in the city of my school permanently. i just don't know how to deal with this.How to deal with this or move out?
Depending on how long u have left i would say just put up. Otherwise just stay with freinds or family.How to deal with this or move out?
YOu know everyone makes mistakes. If your out of HS you should be moving out on your own. Why on Earth at your age do you think she should cook for you anymore? Mercy you got some issues!
Listen son, this is a tough thing for you to hear, but your Mom is an adult and she has the right to make her own decisions. She obviously sees something in this man that you don't and you are being overly protective of her. Do you drink or do drugs ? If not, you still don't have the right to tell her what to do or expect her to live up to your expectations. I think you should go out and live on your own or with some friends if you are old enough and let her live the life she wants. Smoking pot is not the end of the world, but dealing drugs is a serious situation and can lead to lengthy jail terms ( which would end hers and his relationship , toute suite ). If you are in the US, even pot can get you 20 years or more in jail which we in Canada don't have to worry about. Is he dealing so that he can get a better price for himself as a lot of Pot smokers do that to alleviate the expense. If he is dealing other drugs like crack or meth or worse then he sounds like a real piece of S***t and maybe you should drop a dime on him but that can lead to a plethora of other problems like threats to you or your Mom or both. It's time to leave the nest little brother and let your Mom live her own life. Remember we were not put on this earth to pass judgement on others especially our parents as hard as that seems to be as you sound as you really care but ultimately you will have to let go. Good Luck and Move on !!!!!!!!
Your mom sounds like she trying to re-live her teen age years. You should love her but this isn't right. You'd be better off without her. Maybe some day she'll come back to her senses and want to work things out with you. I would move back to the city now and forget this ever happen.
You are a grown up,,, like it or not... Move out, and if you cannot afford to, then you are going to have to put up with it...Did you ever consider calling the authorities?
Most people I think consider their families dis-functional. I doubt that yours is any different.
Buy your own house and pay your own bills - then you might feel like taking a hit with them every now and then.
First thing you should do is find a time to talk to your mom without her bf. Explain to her that you are concerned about her. If her bf is caught with drugs in the house or on the property, she can lose her house. Most states seize the property of drug dealers whether they own it or are just staying there. I recently kicked a friend of 20 years out of my house. He had been living here for 3 months and he was doing and dealing drugs in my garage. You can be an accessory if you stay there with him. If she isn't willing to keep him at arms length maybe you should move out. As much as you love her, you need to let her mistakes be her own, not yours.
Depending on how long u have left i would say just put up. Otherwise just stay with freinds or family.How to deal with this or move out?
YOu know everyone makes mistakes. If your out of HS you should be moving out on your own. Why on Earth at your age do you think she should cook for you anymore? Mercy you got some issues!
Listen son, this is a tough thing for you to hear, but your Mom is an adult and she has the right to make her own decisions. She obviously sees something in this man that you don't and you are being overly protective of her. Do you drink or do drugs ? If not, you still don't have the right to tell her what to do or expect her to live up to your expectations. I think you should go out and live on your own or with some friends if you are old enough and let her live the life she wants. Smoking pot is not the end of the world, but dealing drugs is a serious situation and can lead to lengthy jail terms ( which would end hers and his relationship , toute suite ). If you are in the US, even pot can get you 20 years or more in jail which we in Canada don't have to worry about. Is he dealing so that he can get a better price for himself as a lot of Pot smokers do that to alleviate the expense. If he is dealing other drugs like crack or meth or worse then he sounds like a real piece of S***t and maybe you should drop a dime on him but that can lead to a plethora of other problems like threats to you or your Mom or both. It's time to leave the nest little brother and let your Mom live her own life. Remember we were not put on this earth to pass judgement on others especially our parents as hard as that seems to be as you sound as you really care but ultimately you will have to let go. Good Luck and Move on !!!!!!!!
Your mom sounds like she trying to re-live her teen age years. You should love her but this isn't right. You'd be better off without her. Maybe some day she'll come back to her senses and want to work things out with you. I would move back to the city now and forget this ever happen.
You are a grown up,,, like it or not... Move out, and if you cannot afford to, then you are going to have to put up with it...Did you ever consider calling the authorities?
Most people I think consider their families dis-functional. I doubt that yours is any different.
Buy your own house and pay your own bills - then you might feel like taking a hit with them every now and then.
First thing you should do is find a time to talk to your mom without her bf. Explain to her that you are concerned about her. If her bf is caught with drugs in the house or on the property, she can lose her house. Most states seize the property of drug dealers whether they own it or are just staying there. I recently kicked a friend of 20 years out of my house. He had been living here for 3 months and he was doing and dealing drugs in my garage. You can be an accessory if you stay there with him. If she isn't willing to keep him at arms length maybe you should move out. As much as you love her, you need to let her mistakes be her own, not yours.
Cooking with Kief?!?!?
My boyfriend and I were going to try cooking with the kief in our grinder. The problem is we don't know how much kief is an equivalent to how much marijuana. Would a tablespoon of kief be equivalent to an eighth?! Is there anyway of finding that out besides trial and error?Cooking with Kief?!?!?
Kief is way more concentrated so you don't need nearly as much. A teaspoon per brownie batch if it is from good weed.
Kief is way more concentrated so you don't need nearly as much. A teaspoon per brownie batch if it is from good weed.
I need a job please!?
I need a job like many other people in this world. But please, my family is desperate for money. My husband works at UPS and makes $100 per week and our rent is $600 per month plus our car insurance is $150 per month and the gas and electric bill is $180 per month, and we need food and our food stamps keep getting cut off and we're trying to get our daughter back from social services, she is 1 year old and the only thing left we have to do is finish baby proofing and repairing the house and between the cost of rent and repairs and all the bills we are broke. My dad is helping us with the bills until I can get a job so please someone give me a job! I've turned in hundreds of applications and haven't recieved a single call back. I'm very good at computers, I do designs on adobe photoshop along with photoediting, I'm proficient with Microsoft office Excel, Powerpoint, Word, I know how to delete viruses and cookies, I can set up wireless internet connections, I can fix networking connectivity problems, and I was an intern at Hypernova videogames aka Evil Genius Video games. I'm very good at math and reading, I have a hobby of learning other languages (I'm only fluent in English but I know some Japanese, Spanish, and French). I'm also very good at training cats and dogs, I've had 3 jobs as a cashier, and I am also a very good sales person when it comes to electronics. I have no previous experience selling computers, mp3 players, etc. employment-wise, but I have had multiple personal experiences. One, for example, was when I was at Best Buy with my dad getting a new computer. I overheard this guy talking to his wife about how he wasn't sure what kind of Ipod he wanted. I, personally, prefer Zunes. I've dealt with Ipods and I've dealt with Zunes so I walked over to him and I explained how although Ipods may seem better, they commony glitch, they're overpriced because the main ';operating system'; of the device takes up more memory than the Zune ';operating system'; program does. Thus allowing you to put more songs and videos onto the Zune. In addition, with the Ipod if you want one that has Video, Music, Pictures, Games and Radio like the Zune you would have to spend $300-$400 and the screen wouldn't be as large as the zune screen, and it would most likely break within a year. Whereas a $256 Zune has Radio, games. video, pictures, etc. and you get over 80GB of memory and you can access more of the 80GB of memory than you would be able to access on a 80GB Ipod. Later, when my dad and I were at the front of the store checking the reciept for our purchase, we saw the same couple at a cashier paying for a zune.
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I have no college degrees, I have my high school GED, I do not have my Microsoft A+ certification but I know enough and will continue to learn just please someone give me a job! Please, I have no tickets on my record other than a wrongs to minor ticket that was given to us the day our daughter was taken because our house was messy even though we showed proof that the exterminators had come just beforehand and when they come to spray you have to move everything to the centers of each room. Please I love my daughter and I need her home with me! Please, someone please give me a job and I promise you won't regret it! I am a hard worker and all I need is a break from standing once an hour because the MCL ligaments in both of my legs are torn and they've been torn for the past 4 years, I have my medcal marijuana license but I do not come to work under the influence of my medication, thus why I'll need to sit for 5-10 minutes every hour-half hour. Please, I promise I will work hard just please someone give me a chance and please give me a job! Please e-mail me at monicamorse57@yahoo.com if you have a job opening.
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DOB: 07/1990I need a job please!?
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I also used to intern at Dougals Catering as an assistant cook, and I interned at Hill Middle School as an 8th grade math teacher for the kids who had the most difficulty in math.
I have no college degrees, I have my high school GED, I do not have my Microsoft A+ certification but I know enough and will continue to learn just please someone give me a job! Please, I have no tickets on my record other than a wrongs to minor ticket that was given to us the day our daughter was taken because our house was messy even though we showed proof that the exterminators had come just beforehand and when they come to spray you have to move everything to the centers of each room. Please I love my daughter and I need her home with me! Please, someone please give me a job and I promise you won't regret it! I am a hard worker and all I need is a break from standing once an hour because the MCL ligaments in both of my legs are torn and they've been torn for the past 4 years, I have my medcal marijuana license but I do not come to work under the influence of my medication, thus why I'll need to sit for 5-10 minutes every hour-half hour. Please, I promise I will work hard just please someone give me a chance and please give me a job! Please e-mail me at monicamorse57@yahoo.com if you have a job opening.
Thank you
Monica Amber Ashley Stanley
DOB: 07/1990I need a job please!?
I've very empathetic about your situation. I myself am looking for a job. But it is going to be a long, tough life if you don't get a college education. You can fill out the form provided through the Web site below to become eligible for grants. You probably will be given even more money than you need to pay for tuition because of your financial status. You can use this extra money for anything that you need.
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My boyfriend needs to get it together.?
Hey I am 23 years old and a college student. My boyfriend is 1 month older than me and we have been together for almost 5 years now. He is about to graduate and find a good paying job but for now we just recently went from living together to back at our parents houses. This would be ok but we have a 8 month old together, which forced me to grow up fast. I am employed and he recently quit a great paying job because the hours were too crucial. So I am the only one working right now, when I propose that he follow up with another job offer he doesnt jump at the opprotunity and he loves the thought of living back with his parents rent free. I myself am not really the type to feel comfortable doing this for a long period of time. He plans on living with his parents till we can save up for a down payment for a house which will take a long time cause he hasnt started job searching and wont till summer ends. I was recently on the computer and spotted that he went on this website that has comments about passing a drug test. Yes, he has been smoking marijuana behind my back again. Now you and I both know that you wouldnt be able to get a good job and support your family if you cant pass the drug test. He has been babysitting while I work hard and when I come home hes out the door to go to his friends house(where he smokes). Or hes going to a party every week, and i feel that it's every other day that he does this. Now I come home and do what Im supposed to do, he doesnt cook, clean, do laundry at all. I am left to do this when I get home plus take care of my son cause he nags me that he himself hasnt been out the house in days. So out of guilt I let him go after letting him know how I feel about it. He has no plans of marriage anytime soon and all he wants to do is act like a child. Should I leave? To open his eyes that he needs to be responsible?My boyfriend needs to get it together.?
Hmm, well your doing things all on your own right now, so yeah, dump him until he can prove he can be mature. Don't try to control him into doing things. Not saying you are cause I have no idea. But he does need to learn that there are consequences for not helping out.My boyfriend needs to get it together.?
You haven't left yet? What are you waiting for? Are you waiting for him to grow up and grow a pair as in take care of his family? Look as long as he is smoking weed and possibly whatever else he may be doing. His addiction to weed is only prolonging or delaying his emotional, spiritual, vocational, development to real fatherhood. Whenever a person places their drug of choice before the happiness of their family, their career goals and aspirations They are addicted. Additionally a side effect of weed is amotivational syndrome. The person seems to loose almost all of their drive to achieve, they seem to be almost lazy, and forgetful. They usually become more complacent and will procrastinate more and more
As soon as he gets help with his drug problem and deal with the challenges of adulthood and you get help for yourself to stop enabling him the sooner the two of you can move forward with your lives. And your child's life will be better also with a father that is there for him in all aspects of his life.
yep, not worth having him around sorry. he's not doing anything for you or your son so if he can't pull his socks up, ditch him. sounds like you are already surviving without him just fine.
Hmm, well your doing things all on your own right now, so yeah, dump him until he can prove he can be mature. Don't try to control him into doing things. Not saying you are cause I have no idea. But he does need to learn that there are consequences for not helping out.My boyfriend needs to get it together.?
You haven't left yet? What are you waiting for? Are you waiting for him to grow up and grow a pair as in take care of his family? Look as long as he is smoking weed and possibly whatever else he may be doing. His addiction to weed is only prolonging or delaying his emotional, spiritual, vocational, development to real fatherhood. Whenever a person places their drug of choice before the happiness of their family, their career goals and aspirations They are addicted. Additionally a side effect of weed is amotivational syndrome. The person seems to loose almost all of their drive to achieve, they seem to be almost lazy, and forgetful. They usually become more complacent and will procrastinate more and more
As soon as he gets help with his drug problem and deal with the challenges of adulthood and you get help for yourself to stop enabling him the sooner the two of you can move forward with your lives. And your child's life will be better also with a father that is there for him in all aspects of his life.
yep, not worth having him around sorry. he's not doing anything for you or your son so if he can't pull his socks up, ditch him. sounds like you are already surviving without him just fine.
My grandaughter of 2 is a picky eater,?
Her mothr rather than prepare proper food for her, (my son does when he is with the child) the mother is diagonized manic depressive, she is always taking a pill , saying she cannot function with out this medication, but she is a marijuana smoker, and I saw it in her glasscase, but my son said she smokes, ,,,, but being the grandmother, I went to pick up the grandaughter, the mother does not drive, cook, shop for groceries, and just got fired from her job as a waitress for being drunk at 5am at the restaurant,she worked at for 7 years. she is 36, he is 31,,, It is their first child, and I have been there a lot helping out, but when I went over the other day, the baby was sitting alone ihn her highchair, with a waffle, cold, and the mother saying she has to sit untill she eats it, I sat beside her, then smelled that she had messed her pants, so how long she had been sitting there is my concern The mother thinks spanking is okey,.Yesterday , she said noone uses libraires, I am worried sick, I am university trained, but to keep this up, seeing this lazy woman, do nothing aroung the house, and I think she is abusing the child, help me with your comments, my son is great, but protects the mother is I say anything, help me do the right thing, I have no more patience for the mother,My grandaughter of 2 is a picky eater,?
Your son will need to intervene. You should not let him off the hook so fast-if he is so great he should step up and take full care. I don't think the picky eater thing is really what your are after.time controlled application running
Your son will need to intervene. You should not let him off the hook so fast-if he is so great he should step up and take full care. I don't think the picky eater thing is really what your are after.
What wrong with this man?
He just came out of Piggy Phase drug rehab and he relapsed but telling me he isn't going to smoke the marijuana again. When he leave to go to work early in the afternoon I don't know where he go before getting to work. he work from 4:pm to 10:pm as a porter. Last week, he got pay 700. and on sunday he is broke. He didn't pay no bills because he say let me pay it next week. That is the second time he did this. If he don't pay the bill this week, he know he is out. He gone to the store and stay for hour just to get one soda.Sometime he gone down stair to smoke because he is not allowed to smoke in my apartment. I warned him if I find him doing drug again after giving him another chance for the second time, there isn't anything left in me. See I love him, but no longer in love with him and he isn't doing anything to improve out relationship. Instead he want things to be a bed of rose just like that after what he did, the crack,stealing, infedity and more. No I am not going through the hell again and might as well live by myself. He think something wrong with me because he say you forgave me but don't show it. I show it in many ways. I gave him a place to stay, I support him, I heal him when he is sick, I am the cook,the cleaner and more. He want things to be like it was before he relapsed-loving. I can't love him like before, because he cheated with five women when he was on drugs and two all through the first and second years of our marriage. I can't even sleep with him. It hard. I still feel like he dirty, because while in the program and he was giving passes to leave and visit family and friends, he somehow got VD and since I find out about it, I don't trust him. I asked him to tell me the truth and I will forgive him, but he claims he got it from when he relapsed to drugs. But I find out he was going from one health department to another. Now he think something wrong with me because I won't has sex with him. It is not me it him. Why he carry condom in his pocket? How scratches get on his back? and why he come home smelling like perfume and sex? He contiune to deny any wrong doing. I feel he is afraid of telling methe true out of fear of losing me. There is something wrong with him. He hide his wallet and his pay stub and more. Now tell me is it me or something wrong with him?What wrong with this man?
There is something wrong with you...
You are the one allowing this low-life to be in your life...
There is something wrong with you...
You are the one allowing this low-life to be in your life...
Should i try to go back with my boyfriend?
ok i have been dating mike for 5 months now. i have a little girl, her father doesnt know her l. im a single mom.. so the first thing i have always looked first before getting in a relationship is if the guy likes my lil girl. and how much patience he has with her. she is my number one priority ,so far he has done great. my lil girl loves him. and i can tell he loves her as well.i already had the chance to meet his family and had fun together. the problem here is that hes addicted to marijuana, and its starting to drink alcohol more often. he goes to school, .i love spending time with him.... i dont trust him though. so i always think hes doing something bad when im not there,he doesnt hide his cell phone from me.. he gave me a key from his house, and gave me his password for facebook. the reason why i dont trust him is that the first month that we started dating after we met 4 days later. this girl texted me and said he was sleeping with her.. so i confronted that to him and he said yes that it was true, and that he was also having sex with his neighbor...., he said he was really sorry .he he went after me. we started dating jan 8. so he was cheating on me for that whole jan month. and its funny cuz he tells his friends that he was never cheating on me, that we started dating feb 3. he even tells me that we started dating on feb 3, but i know it was jan 8 . hes fooling himself cuz we celebrate every 8 of the month,i just think he tells me this so he wont feel bad for what he did with the cheating, maybe? after that i havent seen anything bad from him, with girls, i ive seen text of girls, but nothing to be worried about . he doesnt go to partys or clubs, he just likes to kick it in his house ..the neighbor he was having sex the first month we dated doesnt live there anymore. he wants me to give him my trust back , but its very hard....i dont know if im exagerating with him and when he gets me mad i always scream and tell him why is he cheating on me, even though i dont have evidence that he is cheating on me....i tell him every day'; what girl did u bring,'; etc, and stuff like that. ive tried to trust him, it just seems hard, because hes addicted to marijuana like i said at the beginning. hes a very calm person. when hes high hes calm too..his mood doesnt change from when hes out of drugs,hes the same person,its just that when he gets high hes tired.he has made me cry alot of times for the fact that i come by surprise in the morning to his house and the nights before he dranks i beg him not to drink alcohol, and i see lots of bottles of beer. when i get there, and his sleeping at 10 am.so i get there pissed off cuz i c his cell phone, and all the messages where about pills, and marijuana , alcohol, and ciggaretes. especially a day he had to go to school..i told him its ok for him to drink with his friends like on the weekends but hes trying to make it an everyday thing. so those things make me not trust him, and not believe when he tells me hes not cheating anymore...i know hes a good guy after all. he does care about us my daughter and i,we cook together for his friends, he says he wants to be with me for a long time, i do too.i love him very much, its just that addiction, that im worried about.he has told me that we should start going to church, but we havent yet.i would love that. so yesterday i broke up with him. and i dont know if i should give him some time to think about what hes doing,and give myself a chance to learn how to trust him, and c if he could do something about his addiction.? i really want him back, i was the one that broke up. i saw his pain in his face.. what should i doo,? please help me.Should i try to go back with my boyfriend?
Marijuana is your ';problem'...I was involved with a guy who smoke pot. Now, we do not make choices for you this is your own decisions. We can guide you and hope that someones comments will brighten your trauma. You love your daughter well its the pot or losing your daughter. Lets pretend a scenario happens that this guy happens to be at your house and suddenly he starts to sell pot at your house than the cops come raid your place well they can take your daughter into child protective services for child endangerment. I know men are hard to get rid of but we women do not like to be alone. You must seek Al non for alcoholics and there's one for drug users. You cannot force this guy to stop or go to church. I would be more concerned for your daughter than this guy. He's sad for other reasons so he's hiding behind the alcohol and pot. I know he seems to love you but addicts do not know ';how'; to love until they seek help and realize that its never too late to have love. Seek God and plea with God for your guidance and protection. God has our plans all planned out so this guy is just waiting for God. Leave him alone and not words you or I want to hear. I am still keeping in contact with my ex. Well, not totally in contact as he no longer wants me cause of all his dilemmas. Yes, we have invested 18 years and I am always going to love him. I have now given it to the Lord but I do struggle with worries of him and his drugs. He only sleeps with these girls cause of the drug chemicals that make their sex drive go up. I know I have seen it and been through it with my ex. Yes, he may love you but not the way you want him to love you. I say keep hold of him and try to help when he wants it not when you want it. I feel we are all quick to turn our backs of drug and sexual addicts and alcoholics. They need love, too. For now, I would focus on the well being of your daughter. There are plenty of other men out there when you are ready to let those attached strings go of this guy. Its not easy and it will never be easy even if you do find another man in the next year. You will always have that special bond even if others do not agree. I feel that addicts are just out looking for a free fix. That's what happen to the guy I was seeing when he would cheat. It was all about drugs/pot, etc. Not about you. Be strong for your daughter and yourself. Seek groups or seek help in understanding the emotional binding of addicts. They manipulate and they can make you want to hear what you want to hear or believe in what they do or say. I am 48 not some young teen. It applies to all ages what a woman or man goes through with addicts. There is still hope for recovery but the recovery has to begin with him wanting it not you wanting it. I hope this helps or at least gets you to thinking about the best options for you. Just vent it out no matter if it sounds like a broken record. One day it will get easier but for now you will be attached even if you say you no longer have contact with him. We do not know your situation as we place our comments but I am hoping you have given yourself space from this guy. Best of luck and God Bless You...may the blood of Jesus run over this guy for protection and salvation I ask of this in the Lord Jesus name..amenShould i try to go back with my boyfriend?
no, don't go back to him
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Hun, i dont think everyone is going to read all of that! But i would say NO.
i didnt read all of that but, yea i say no,
Ok. I didnt read all of it but once i got to the part where you dont trust him i stopped. if you dont trust him, then dont be with him. he smoke weed and drinks. do you really want your little girl to grow up thinking that it is fine to do those things? think about it.
Did you read what you wrote after you wrote it? Seriously, you have a laundry list of reasons why this guy shouldn't be in your life and NEVER should have been let near your daughter, yet you are honestly asking people what you should do?
I think that if you are even considering taking this guy back you should give up custody of your daughter, find her a great home with parents who know the answers to questions like the one you asked and can see a loser a mile away.
are you an idiot the answer is already in your question, get rid of him before he gets rid of you, drugs and children don't ever mix and if your daughter grows up around that then you knw the consequences of that
Marijuana is your ';problem'...I was involved with a guy who smoke pot. Now, we do not make choices for you this is your own decisions. We can guide you and hope that someones comments will brighten your trauma. You love your daughter well its the pot or losing your daughter. Lets pretend a scenario happens that this guy happens to be at your house and suddenly he starts to sell pot at your house than the cops come raid your place well they can take your daughter into child protective services for child endangerment. I know men are hard to get rid of but we women do not like to be alone. You must seek Al non for alcoholics and there's one for drug users. You cannot force this guy to stop or go to church. I would be more concerned for your daughter than this guy. He's sad for other reasons so he's hiding behind the alcohol and pot. I know he seems to love you but addicts do not know ';how'; to love until they seek help and realize that its never too late to have love. Seek God and plea with God for your guidance and protection. God has our plans all planned out so this guy is just waiting for God. Leave him alone and not words you or I want to hear. I am still keeping in contact with my ex. Well, not totally in contact as he no longer wants me cause of all his dilemmas. Yes, we have invested 18 years and I am always going to love him. I have now given it to the Lord but I do struggle with worries of him and his drugs. He only sleeps with these girls cause of the drug chemicals that make their sex drive go up. I know I have seen it and been through it with my ex. Yes, he may love you but not the way you want him to love you. I say keep hold of him and try to help when he wants it not when you want it. I feel we are all quick to turn our backs of drug and sexual addicts and alcoholics. They need love, too. For now, I would focus on the well being of your daughter. There are plenty of other men out there when you are ready to let those attached strings go of this guy. Its not easy and it will never be easy even if you do find another man in the next year. You will always have that special bond even if others do not agree. I feel that addicts are just out looking for a free fix. That's what happen to the guy I was seeing when he would cheat. It was all about drugs/pot, etc. Not about you. Be strong for your daughter and yourself. Seek groups or seek help in understanding the emotional binding of addicts. They manipulate and they can make you want to hear what you want to hear or believe in what they do or say. I am 48 not some young teen. It applies to all ages what a woman or man goes through with addicts. There is still hope for recovery but the recovery has to begin with him wanting it not you wanting it. I hope this helps or at least gets you to thinking about the best options for you. Just vent it out no matter if it sounds like a broken record. One day it will get easier but for now you will be attached even if you say you no longer have contact with him. We do not know your situation as we place our comments but I am hoping you have given yourself space from this guy. Best of luck and God Bless You...may the blood of Jesus run over this guy for protection and salvation I ask of this in the Lord Jesus name..amenShould i try to go back with my boyfriend?
no, don't go back to him
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Hun, i dont think everyone is going to read all of that! But i would say NO.
i didnt read all of that but, yea i say no,
Ok. I didnt read all of it but once i got to the part where you dont trust him i stopped. if you dont trust him, then dont be with him. he smoke weed and drinks. do you really want your little girl to grow up thinking that it is fine to do those things? think about it.
Did you read what you wrote after you wrote it? Seriously, you have a laundry list of reasons why this guy shouldn't be in your life and NEVER should have been let near your daughter, yet you are honestly asking people what you should do?
I think that if you are even considering taking this guy back you should give up custody of your daughter, find her a great home with parents who know the answers to questions like the one you asked and can see a loser a mile away.
are you an idiot the answer is already in your question, get rid of him before he gets rid of you, drugs and children don't ever mix and if your daughter grows up around that then you knw the consequences of that
Top Secret Clearance for USMC MOS 02xx?
I've recently DEP'd into the Marine Corps and have signed a contract for 02xx. For either of the MOS's that are available you need a Top Secret Clearance. However, I've previously used marijuana. I used it pretty frequently for about 6 months stopping about 8-9 months ago with 1 use about 3 months ago. Will this disqualify me? I've finally learned how stupid it is to smoke marijuana as getting caught with it could close so many doors to my life and no longer have any desire to smoke or be around it. I've even distanced myself from friends that are constant users.
I've also never had any run ins with the law except a one-way ticket that was ACD'd. I've asked my recruiter, he says I'll have no problem but I just wanted a second opinion.
Also, if I don't get clearance will my asvab score play into me not being made into a cook? (not that theirs anything wrong with being a cook, just not for me)Top Secret Clearance for USMC MOS 02xx?
Did you disclose this use to your recruiter and is it noted in your record this is very important.
If not and they do the check and find out you are done, it makes you enlistment a fraud and say good bye period.
When I got my TS they went back to my grade school and to all my neighbors and old friends...ensure this is in your record that you used...and if you say once and they find out different...it could spell real trouble for you. And yes your ASVAB score will play in any job you get.
Good luck, and let me know when you become a brother and a marine.
Simper FiTop Secret Clearance for USMC MOS 02xx?
Today they normally don't even investigate for a security clearance since 911 they just get big piles of them so they turn around and say ';sign it Bob.'; The investigation is now done through a automated system of questionnaires that the Office Personnel Management has now been charged with and if they read your envelope they just skim.
If they really do your polygraph there will be a problem, and if you ever piss out after the fact you will get 24 to 72 months.
If you didn't tell them you better pray they don't find out. If you did tell them things still don't look very good.
I believe cooks in the Marine Corps went the way of the buggy whip !
I've also never had any run ins with the law except a one-way ticket that was ACD'd. I've asked my recruiter, he says I'll have no problem but I just wanted a second opinion.
Also, if I don't get clearance will my asvab score play into me not being made into a cook? (not that theirs anything wrong with being a cook, just not for me)Top Secret Clearance for USMC MOS 02xx?
Did you disclose this use to your recruiter and is it noted in your record this is very important.
If not and they do the check and find out you are done, it makes you enlistment a fraud and say good bye period.
When I got my TS they went back to my grade school and to all my neighbors and old friends...ensure this is in your record that you used...and if you say once and they find out different...it could spell real trouble for you. And yes your ASVAB score will play in any job you get.
Good luck, and let me know when you become a brother and a marine.
Simper FiTop Secret Clearance for USMC MOS 02xx?
Today they normally don't even investigate for a security clearance since 911 they just get big piles of them so they turn around and say ';sign it Bob.'; The investigation is now done through a automated system of questionnaires that the Office Personnel Management has now been charged with and if they read your envelope they just skim.
If they really do your polygraph there will be a problem, and if you ever piss out after the fact you will get 24 to 72 months.
If you didn't tell them you better pray they don't find out. If you did tell them things still don't look very good.
I believe cooks in the Marine Corps went the way of the buggy whip !
How to get my partner to stop hanging out with one of his friends?
Now I'm not being nasty I am asking this because my partner whom I love very much has a friend that isn't very nice, and now that I have said he is not welcome here or next time he walks in and I'm cooking he's going to wear the fry pan I am worried he will try to break me and my man up. This guy smokes marijuana, barely works, still lives at home with his mother, he's a womanizer, in theory and practical and lies to everyone all the time just to make himself look good. My partner has known him a long time and I think he has become blind at seeing how his friend has changed. I have had other women tell me a lot of nasty stories about my partner's friend and a month ago my partner and I got into an argument about nothing really and this guy put his 2 cents in and I told his mate to leave, then he offered for my man to go out with him for pizza and leaving me to it so to speak, when my man should have stayed and sorted it out with me. Then after my man had gone out with him, the guy was sending me nasty texts. I have never liked the guy, my partner and I do not smoke marijuana and this guy will come around to our house under the influence of the stuff, every time he comes around, he eats our food, drinks our alcohol when ever we have it in the house, he never buys his own, anything. Hence why I said about the fry pan as he will always turn up when I'm cooking so I will be asked to cook extra for the guy. Now he has started phoning up when he thinks I'm not here and sly things and dumb excuses for my man to go and see him when my man works long hours, enjoys his sleep and my partner honestly doesn't have anything in common with the guy any more. What do I do?How to get my partner to stop hanging out with one of his friends?
You can't force your partner to quit hanging out with him unless you say, ';It's either me or him.';
What you should do is talk to your man and tell him how you feel about the friend. Say that you don't like the friend being around here because he acts like he lives in the house and gets involved in the conflicts that don't concern him. Say what you said here.
Try not to say it in a way thats accusing, just be calm and relaxed.
As for the guy, block his number from your phone and don't pick up the phone if he's calling the house. When he knocks on the door, don't answer either.
I hope that things work out. If not I guess you will have to find a way to deal with the friend either by telling him yourself that you don't want him around or something.
All the best!!!
Please answer mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>How to get my partner to stop hanging out with one of his friends?
if your partner isn't influenced by this guy's lifestyle, and they are friends then i'd just ignore the guy. if your partner IS influenced and his behavior changes when he's around the friend, then maybe you two could discuss it.
since you do not wish to cook for him or give him anything to drink, and since his presence annoys you, perhaps you could tell your partner how you feel? I'd say you feel used by the guy, and that is a good place to start.
if he came to my house when i was cooking, i'd tell him i was getting ready to eat in peace, and he'd have to leave. he'd not be able to drink my alcohol (even though i don't even drink) either.
You can't force your partner to quit hanging out with him unless you say, ';It's either me or him.';
What you should do is talk to your man and tell him how you feel about the friend. Say that you don't like the friend being around here because he acts like he lives in the house and gets involved in the conflicts that don't concern him. Say what you said here.
Try not to say it in a way thats accusing, just be calm and relaxed.
As for the guy, block his number from your phone and don't pick up the phone if he's calling the house. When he knocks on the door, don't answer either.
I hope that things work out. If not I guess you will have to find a way to deal with the friend either by telling him yourself that you don't want him around or something.
All the best!!!
Please answer mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>How to get my partner to stop hanging out with one of his friends?
if your partner isn't influenced by this guy's lifestyle, and they are friends then i'd just ignore the guy. if your partner IS influenced and his behavior changes when he's around the friend, then maybe you two could discuss it.
since you do not wish to cook for him or give him anything to drink, and since his presence annoys you, perhaps you could tell your partner how you feel? I'd say you feel used by the guy, and that is a good place to start.
if he came to my house when i was cooking, i'd tell him i was getting ready to eat in peace, and he'd have to leave. he'd not be able to drink my alcohol (even though i don't even drink) either.
What do I do with my Dad?
I love my dad. But he always goes to my Grandmas house to drink. he's the sencond oldest of the 4.he used the excuse to see Grandma. But shes in arkansas with my uncle (the youngest) right now so he uses hes going over for a swim. Well my other uncle (3rd oldest) always direct connecting to him to come over and drink. I HATE IT. He needs too stop for his health. He had a cardiac arrest almost 2 years ago so now he has a defibrillator. Hes also supost to stop smokeing.
He's in a band and he's ok when he leaves but after practice when he comes home, he's trashed. And when my mom went to see him play out, they went over to the house and the drummers wife tells my mom too see if the brownies were done 'cause she doesn't know how to cook. So when my mom got in the house she smelt a mixture of marijuana and bownies. So the brownies were ';special';. Today he came home and he broke his bass, and my parents had an arguement and made my mom say for the millionth time; I want to run away.
I don't know what to do? I think he's going to die soon. My grandfather died of a heartattack when he was 54, my uncle (the oldest) died almost 4 years ago from liver failure at 54. My dad is 52 soon to be 53 on July 8th. i know hes smokes ciggs. I think he smokes pot and drinks more at practice, but i dont know. i kinda want to run away with my mom, but I want my father to walk me down the isle on my wedding day. But whatever we tell him he wont follow. Maybe a day, but thats it. I don't know what to do.What do I do with my Dad?
Your dad is going to die young too and their is nothing you can do to change it. He doesn't see it in the reasoned rational way that you do. He is hooked on the booze and the lifestyle so rationalises at every point.
It you could make him stop, can you imagine how miserable his longer life would be? It is sad particularly for you because he will probably never be who you want him to be. Similar situations with loved ones who wont see the need to stop drinking are being played out all over the world. Talk to someone at Alanon - they are people learning to accept their powerlessness over a loved one drinking. They will change your way of viewing his drinking without rejecting him. Good luck to you and mum.
He's in a band and he's ok when he leaves but after practice when he comes home, he's trashed. And when my mom went to see him play out, they went over to the house and the drummers wife tells my mom too see if the brownies were done 'cause she doesn't know how to cook. So when my mom got in the house she smelt a mixture of marijuana and bownies. So the brownies were ';special';. Today he came home and he broke his bass, and my parents had an arguement and made my mom say for the millionth time; I want to run away.
I don't know what to do? I think he's going to die soon. My grandfather died of a heartattack when he was 54, my uncle (the oldest) died almost 4 years ago from liver failure at 54. My dad is 52 soon to be 53 on July 8th. i know hes smokes ciggs. I think he smokes pot and drinks more at practice, but i dont know. i kinda want to run away with my mom, but I want my father to walk me down the isle on my wedding day. But whatever we tell him he wont follow. Maybe a day, but thats it. I don't know what to do.What do I do with my Dad?
Your dad is going to die young too and their is nothing you can do to change it. He doesn't see it in the reasoned rational way that you do. He is hooked on the booze and the lifestyle so rationalises at every point.
It you could make him stop, can you imagine how miserable his longer life would be? It is sad particularly for you because he will probably never be who you want him to be. Similar situations with loved ones who wont see the need to stop drinking are being played out all over the world. Talk to someone at Alanon - they are people learning to accept their powerlessness over a loved one drinking. They will change your way of viewing his drinking without rejecting him. Good luck to you and mum.
Got caught hot boxing by police. Yeah, judge me all you want, I know I'm stupid, just please answer this.?
I got caught last night, by the police, hot boxing with two of my friends (we're all 17). We had about half a gram of marijuana and we were in a private parking lot in Cook County. We got our tickets, totaling $150, but I'm just wondering, will this appear on my credit history? Will my high school be notified about this? If it does appear on my credit history, how will that affect any future jobs I might want to pursue?Got caught hot boxing by police. Yeah, judge me all you want, I know I'm stupid, just please answer this.?
Your state may send citations to collections agencies, but this is more for parking violations and the like. If you do not respond to or pay the citation or if you make payment arrangements and default, a warrant will be issued for your arrest.
I don't know why everyone thinks your criminal record is ';expunged'; at 18. This is FALSE. To obtain court records of a juvenile case you need a court order, but it is not gone. The charges are on your rap sheet and in the court records forever, unless you actually file a petition to expunge them.
I ran a criminal history on a guy for DUI just a few days ago, and on his rap sheet were two retail thefts, possession of a small amount of marijuana, and a disorderly conduct, all separate charges, all before the age of 16.
You should request a hearing and either fight the citation or make payment arrangements. You also can appeal the decision if you are found guilty and have an appellate hearing. You may get lucky, remember I said get lucky, and have it dismissed.Got caught hot boxing by police. Yeah, judge me all you want, I know I'm stupid, just please answer this.?
Not quite sure what ';hot boxing'; is, but if it has anything to do with Mj then I know its illegal. This won't appear on your credit history unless you don't pay the fine. If the state (or county) has to take your account to collections, then yes it will be on your credit.
Depending on the laws in your state, yes the school can be notified.
If the charge is or is not on your credit history, it is still on your criminal record. Criminal records are supposed to be expunged when we reach the age of majority, but they are not. They are used to establish a history pattern, among other things. They cannot use the minor's record to assist in convicting for a new charge. Your criminal record follows you all throughout the rest of your life. Jobs, among other institutions, will look at your background.
Unsolicited advice? get your crap together and stop getting caught!!!
Good luck!
No, it won't appear on your credit history. It will appear on your criminal record.
You're 17, so I'm not sure if you've been charged as an adult. You may be able to get it expunged from your record when you turn 18 because you're a minor. If not, how long it remains on your record depends on local laws and whether or not you repeat the offense.
Sounds like you got a misdemeanor, so you won't have to answer yes to '; have you ever been convicted of a felony';. If you are going to be stupid and smoke pot, then be smart and do it in your own home. IDK if the school will find out or not. Bottom line is don't do any thing in public you don't want the folks to find out about, or that you wouldn't do in front of them.
Your state may send citations to collections agencies, but this is more for parking violations and the like. If you do not respond to or pay the citation or if you make payment arrangements and default, a warrant will be issued for your arrest.
I don't know why everyone thinks your criminal record is ';expunged'; at 18. This is FALSE. To obtain court records of a juvenile case you need a court order, but it is not gone. The charges are on your rap sheet and in the court records forever, unless you actually file a petition to expunge them.
I ran a criminal history on a guy for DUI just a few days ago, and on his rap sheet were two retail thefts, possession of a small amount of marijuana, and a disorderly conduct, all separate charges, all before the age of 16.
You should request a hearing and either fight the citation or make payment arrangements. You also can appeal the decision if you are found guilty and have an appellate hearing. You may get lucky, remember I said get lucky, and have it dismissed.Got caught hot boxing by police. Yeah, judge me all you want, I know I'm stupid, just please answer this.?
Not quite sure what ';hot boxing'; is, but if it has anything to do with Mj then I know its illegal. This won't appear on your credit history unless you don't pay the fine. If the state (or county) has to take your account to collections, then yes it will be on your credit.
Depending on the laws in your state, yes the school can be notified.
If the charge is or is not on your credit history, it is still on your criminal record. Criminal records are supposed to be expunged when we reach the age of majority, but they are not. They are used to establish a history pattern, among other things. They cannot use the minor's record to assist in convicting for a new charge. Your criminal record follows you all throughout the rest of your life. Jobs, among other institutions, will look at your background.
Unsolicited advice? get your crap together and stop getting caught!!!
Good luck!
No, it won't appear on your credit history. It will appear on your criminal record.
You're 17, so I'm not sure if you've been charged as an adult. You may be able to get it expunged from your record when you turn 18 because you're a minor. If not, how long it remains on your record depends on local laws and whether or not you repeat the offense.
Sounds like you got a misdemeanor, so you won't have to answer yes to '; have you ever been convicted of a felony';. If you are going to be stupid and smoke pot, then be smart and do it in your own home. IDK if the school will find out or not. Bottom line is don't do any thing in public you don't want the folks to find out about, or that you wouldn't do in front of them.
Agree or disagree (about marijuana)?
You don't have to approve of using marijuana to get ';high';, but please hear me out.
How can pot be banned when alcohol and tobacco are perfectly legal? I can ask this a million times but never get a straight answer, they're just complete and utter bullshit.
Gateway Theory: Marijuana leads to hard drugs.
My reply: The word ';gateway'; drug is so empty in meaning that its useless as anything but propaganda. Correlation does not equal causation. Its the most widely available illegal drug. I wonder how many of those meth addicts had drank alcohol, smoked tobacco, or tried prescription meds.
Societal Theory: Alcohol and Tobacco are accepted parts of our society making them fundamentally different from marijuana.
My reply to that: Precedent is no excuse for bad policy, slavery and child-labor were once accepted parts of our society, along with opium-laced baby medicines.
Enough problems already theory: Alcohol and Tobacco are bad enough, so why add to the problems?
Fact: Marijuana is by far the least harmful of the three. I challenge anyone who disagrees with me to do some research and to cite their RELIABLE sources otherwise we'll all know that you're pulling **** out of your ***. The main difference between marijuana and alcohol other than alcohol being more fatal to your health is the legal status. It's not the mind effecting part that cause marijuana and alcohol to differ, because they both effect the mind. Also, millions of Americans smoke marijuana regularly. And most marijuana related problems stem from the prohibition against it, not its use.
One thing I need to add, yes its true that marijuana has five times as much tar than a normal cigarette but most people don't smoke anywhere near as much marijuana as they do tobacco. Beyond that, smoking is far from the only means of ingestion. Vaporizing or cooking removes that risk. Also, this is for those of you who want to give me bullshit answers. Marijuana, alcohol, and tobacco all mess with the brain! Why do you think smokers smoke? A. because it gives them a high introducing nicotine and other chemicals to the brain, and B, the chemicals from the nicotine and smoke cause a chemical reaction in the brain, and the brain produces serotonin and other happy chemicals. Oh, and C, the mechanism of addiction, causing your brain to be dependent on the nicotine.
Do you agree or disagree with the information I have just showed you? Why or why not?Agree or disagree (about marijuana)?
Before I begin, 420 for life XD
I like your insight on the subject because you are taking somewhat a political view than a view of the physical substance it's self. Remember when you are opening this topic up to people who will automatically shoot your ideas down because it's about cannabis.
For the most part, I agree.Agree or disagree (about marijuana)?
Marijuana appeals to the weak minded and losers in life......
There is nothing to defend here... Pot make most folks apathetic and lazy.... You can sugar coat the B.S. all you want but pot is for losers....
I totally agree. Marijuana should and will be one day legalized. Until then theres nothing we can do but keep protesting for legalization.
agree COMPLETELY with METROPOL...I know this from personal expericence
because people have been brainwashed. government have done what they set out to long ago.,.,.i agree by the way
How can pot be banned when alcohol and tobacco are perfectly legal? I can ask this a million times but never get a straight answer, they're just complete and utter bullshit.
Gateway Theory: Marijuana leads to hard drugs.
My reply: The word ';gateway'; drug is so empty in meaning that its useless as anything but propaganda. Correlation does not equal causation. Its the most widely available illegal drug. I wonder how many of those meth addicts had drank alcohol, smoked tobacco, or tried prescription meds.
Societal Theory: Alcohol and Tobacco are accepted parts of our society making them fundamentally different from marijuana.
My reply to that: Precedent is no excuse for bad policy, slavery and child-labor were once accepted parts of our society, along with opium-laced baby medicines.
Enough problems already theory: Alcohol and Tobacco are bad enough, so why add to the problems?
Fact: Marijuana is by far the least harmful of the three. I challenge anyone who disagrees with me to do some research and to cite their RELIABLE sources otherwise we'll all know that you're pulling **** out of your ***. The main difference between marijuana and alcohol other than alcohol being more fatal to your health is the legal status. It's not the mind effecting part that cause marijuana and alcohol to differ, because they both effect the mind. Also, millions of Americans smoke marijuana regularly. And most marijuana related problems stem from the prohibition against it, not its use.
One thing I need to add, yes its true that marijuana has five times as much tar than a normal cigarette but most people don't smoke anywhere near as much marijuana as they do tobacco. Beyond that, smoking is far from the only means of ingestion. Vaporizing or cooking removes that risk. Also, this is for those of you who want to give me bullshit answers. Marijuana, alcohol, and tobacco all mess with the brain! Why do you think smokers smoke? A. because it gives them a high introducing nicotine and other chemicals to the brain, and B, the chemicals from the nicotine and smoke cause a chemical reaction in the brain, and the brain produces serotonin and other happy chemicals. Oh, and C, the mechanism of addiction, causing your brain to be dependent on the nicotine.
Do you agree or disagree with the information I have just showed you? Why or why not?Agree or disagree (about marijuana)?
Before I begin, 420 for life XD
I like your insight on the subject because you are taking somewhat a political view than a view of the physical substance it's self. Remember when you are opening this topic up to people who will automatically shoot your ideas down because it's about cannabis.
For the most part, I agree.Agree or disagree (about marijuana)?
Marijuana appeals to the weak minded and losers in life......
There is nothing to defend here... Pot make most folks apathetic and lazy.... You can sugar coat the B.S. all you want but pot is for losers....
I totally agree. Marijuana should and will be one day legalized. Until then theres nothing we can do but keep protesting for legalization.
agree COMPLETELY with METROPOL...I know this from personal expericence
because people have been brainwashed. government have done what they set out to long ago.,.,.i agree by the way
How do you get back your intelligence after doing drugs off and on for the past 10 years?
My brain feels fried like slush and I definitely feel a whole stupider. Ive done marijuana, cocaine, shrooms, and painkillers because I used to hate my life. I stopped doing all these things about 6 months ago, and now I will never go back to them. The thing is, now that Im ready to live my life, My thoughts are not intelligent anymore. My brain feels like its cooked. I cant sleep. It takes me 10 times longer to process information than it used to. My head actually starts heating up when I have to think things quickly. Im 27 now, but know I cant live the rest of my life this way. Is there anybody I can see that can help with the brain? Other than a psychologist or psychiatrist? Already tried them. Dont want to be on meds since my brain is now functioning at such a low level. I shutter to think it will always be this way. Please help. I cant live like this. I know i made bad choices. I think this may be permanent brain damage. I need to see someone badHow do you get back your intelligence after doing drugs off and on for the past 10 years?
consult a good doctorHow do you get back your intelligence after doing drugs off and on for the past 10 years?
find a ds and a brain age game and play all day
Did you ever see the commercial with the egg. This is your brain on drugs. Now you know why they used the egg. You have fried your brain. you may or may not get some of it back. Make good choices from now on. Stay off drugs and get counseling.
Well first thing go to the doctor and ask him, and from what your typing you seem like you can understand and write good, so I would study, exersise HELPS ALOT and get freinds, your brain wont heal completly and It will make you feel a heck of alot better
think about taking a class in something that interests you for starter. There have been several studies showing that brain exercise helps many with memory problems, though I am not sure it would help due to drugs. See a doctor or talk with a counselor. You are on the right track. I wish you all the luck in the world.
I really feel for you. I am an ex-addict myself of pain pills. However, I don't feel I have lost my ';snap';. Thank goodness I got help and got off the things. Anyway, once you've done damage to your brain it's not likely you are going to ever be what you once were. I transcribe medical dictation for a living and have typed many reports on folks with the same problem you are complaining of. Most of the cases that the physicians feel are salvageable are referred to Neurologists. They have the tools and tests to use to determine the extent of the possible damage. I hope the best for you. And don't let anyone slam dunk you and belittle you for what you went through in life. The important thing NOW is that you don't touch the stuff anymore. I avoid the stuff like the plague, because that is exactly what it is. All the best.
fear not......the egg analogy is somewhat correct, but it is unlikely from the chemicals that you have done that you have ';fried your brain';. Eat healthy, get plenty of aerobic exercise, and a good eight hours or so of sleep every nite, lots of water daily. Six months is NOT a long time after 10 years of abuse...it took me about three years to get ';normal'; again...whatever normal means.... lol. I trust you are in some sort of a program as well!! Give it time....my guess is that you will be fine...most people recover from abuse...It just takes time and effort...but not nearly as much as you probably put into staying high.
Damaged brain cells can't heal BUT, the brain does have a remarkable ability to ';re-wire'; itself.
As you brain chemistry (your brain chemistry will be f***ked for a good while yet) returns to a more normal state, you will find that you can think more clearly.
One thing you may be able to do that could speed up this process is to find subject of study (electronics, law, etc...) and dive in as deep as you can. Do serious study that requires a great amount of concentration.
Take massive amounts of anti-oxidents, go to GNC and find the strongest ones
step by step,probably this things were stimulative now you have to pay your doping periods with (temporary) slowness
Try 3d puzzles, sudoku, and other mentally challenging games. Skip the Parker Brothers type board games and video games.
Take some adult ed classes. Jog, swim, lift weights. Eat protein foods--eggs, tuna, etc, and high vitamin foods...oranges, grapefruit, blackberries, blueberries. Read Discover, National Geographic, and similar magasines...and make sure that you understand every word in every article.
Go to school...and get a mentally taxing job.
i kind of know what you are going throw my uncle did drugs and got in trouble so i can and cant help you on this
Try going to a NA meeting. many people are there to help. Not just counslers, but people just like you, and they probably have some of the same problems.
Alright check it out.....GO BACK TO SCHOOL !!! It's true... OH it's soooo true. I speak from experience. If only basic college courses with no real direction known, it is'nt as if you are going to hurt yourself in any way. It worked for me, well, at any rate--- I feel better about myself, and I have the confidence to socialize, speak freely on topics of intellectual stimulating matters !!! Ha Ha Ha .... True story. Wishing the very best to you in all you endeavors, God bless.
Ok first just by writing this answer fourm shows signs of intelligence. Second seeking help also intelligence. Here is what helped me and I used hard drugs for many many years as well and have too felt this fried feeling at times. Getting in shape and exercising will greatly help you I promise. Doing things to improve your life will also help. Take some time everyday to think to yourself and meditate maybe on the day at hand, and drink plenty of water as well.
consult a good doctorHow do you get back your intelligence after doing drugs off and on for the past 10 years?
find a ds and a brain age game and play all day
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Did you ever see the commercial with the egg. This is your brain on drugs. Now you know why they used the egg. You have fried your brain. you may or may not get some of it back. Make good choices from now on. Stay off drugs and get counseling.
Well first thing go to the doctor and ask him, and from what your typing you seem like you can understand and write good, so I would study, exersise HELPS ALOT and get freinds, your brain wont heal completly and It will make you feel a heck of alot better
think about taking a class in something that interests you for starter. There have been several studies showing that brain exercise helps many with memory problems, though I am not sure it would help due to drugs. See a doctor or talk with a counselor. You are on the right track. I wish you all the luck in the world.
I really feel for you. I am an ex-addict myself of pain pills. However, I don't feel I have lost my ';snap';. Thank goodness I got help and got off the things. Anyway, once you've done damage to your brain it's not likely you are going to ever be what you once were. I transcribe medical dictation for a living and have typed many reports on folks with the same problem you are complaining of. Most of the cases that the physicians feel are salvageable are referred to Neurologists. They have the tools and tests to use to determine the extent of the possible damage. I hope the best for you. And don't let anyone slam dunk you and belittle you for what you went through in life. The important thing NOW is that you don't touch the stuff anymore. I avoid the stuff like the plague, because that is exactly what it is. All the best.
fear not......the egg analogy is somewhat correct, but it is unlikely from the chemicals that you have done that you have ';fried your brain';. Eat healthy, get plenty of aerobic exercise, and a good eight hours or so of sleep every nite, lots of water daily. Six months is NOT a long time after 10 years of abuse...it took me about three years to get ';normal'; again...whatever normal means.... lol. I trust you are in some sort of a program as well!! Give it time....my guess is that you will be fine...most people recover from abuse...It just takes time and effort...but not nearly as much as you probably put into staying high.
Damaged brain cells can't heal BUT, the brain does have a remarkable ability to ';re-wire'; itself.
As you brain chemistry (your brain chemistry will be f***ked for a good while yet) returns to a more normal state, you will find that you can think more clearly.
One thing you may be able to do that could speed up this process is to find subject of study (electronics, law, etc...) and dive in as deep as you can. Do serious study that requires a great amount of concentration.
Take massive amounts of anti-oxidents, go to GNC and find the strongest ones
step by step,probably this things were stimulative now you have to pay your doping periods with (temporary) slowness
Try 3d puzzles, sudoku, and other mentally challenging games. Skip the Parker Brothers type board games and video games.
Take some adult ed classes. Jog, swim, lift weights. Eat protein foods--eggs, tuna, etc, and high vitamin foods...oranges, grapefruit, blackberries, blueberries. Read Discover, National Geographic, and similar magasines...and make sure that you understand every word in every article.
Go to school...and get a mentally taxing job.
i kind of know what you are going throw my uncle did drugs and got in trouble so i can and cant help you on this
Try going to a NA meeting. many people are there to help. Not just counslers, but people just like you, and they probably have some of the same problems.
Alright check it out.....GO BACK TO SCHOOL !!! It's true... OH it's soooo true. I speak from experience. If only basic college courses with no real direction known, it is'nt as if you are going to hurt yourself in any way. It worked for me, well, at any rate--- I feel better about myself, and I have the confidence to socialize, speak freely on topics of intellectual stimulating matters !!! Ha Ha Ha .... True story. Wishing the very best to you in all you endeavors, God bless.
Ok first just by writing this answer fourm shows signs of intelligence. Second seeking help also intelligence. Here is what helped me and I used hard drugs for many many years as well and have too felt this fried feeling at times. Getting in shape and exercising will greatly help you I promise. Doing things to improve your life will also help. Take some time everyday to think to yourself and meditate maybe on the day at hand, and drink plenty of water as well.
Anyway to to get high off of marijuana without the smell?
hey, i need a way to get high inside without the smell. Does anyone know how to do this? I was thinking of maybe baking it into brownies or something, but does it smell when you do this?
I heard the reason to bake it is to release the thc, just like when you smoke it, then could you just microwave the weed with butter or something like that?
Any ways (smoking or cooking it into foods) will work for me i just need the smell to go away.
Please no anwers like ';don't smoke weed its bad for you';,im not asking for your opinion about that, its my deciison its my life.
Thanks for your answers and please include details (like how much weed to use, or recipies to cook or anything like that would be helpful =]Anyway to to get high off of marijuana without the smell?
my avice is get a roll of toilet paper that has no paper left just the roll #2 make a ball of toilet paper that fits tightly in the roll and spray the ball in the roll with purfume or whatever and have fun it works really good
I heard the reason to bake it is to release the thc, just like when you smoke it, then could you just microwave the weed with butter or something like that?
Any ways (smoking or cooking it into foods) will work for me i just need the smell to go away.
Please no anwers like ';don't smoke weed its bad for you';,im not asking for your opinion about that, its my deciison its my life.
Thanks for your answers and please include details (like how much weed to use, or recipies to cook or anything like that would be helpful =]Anyway to to get high off of marijuana without the smell?
my avice is get a roll of toilet paper that has no paper left just the roll #2 make a ball of toilet paper that fits tightly in the roll and spray the ball in the roll with purfume or whatever and have fun it works really good
We've scrutinized and researched drugs like aspartame ad nauseum...why can't we do the same with marijuana?
On one article of aspartame, here are all the references:
(1) Department of Health and Human Services, Report on All Adverse Reactions in the Adverse Reaction Monitoring System, (February 25 and 28, 1994).
(2) Compiled by researchers, physicians, and artificial sweetner experts for Mission Possible, a group dedicated to warning consumers about aspartame.
(3) Excitotoxins: The Taste That Kills, by Russell L. Blaylock, M.D.
(4) Safety of Amino Acids, Life Sciences Research Office, FASEB, FDA Contract No. 223-88-2124, Task Order No. 8.
(5) FDA Adverse Reaction Monitoring System.
(6) Wurtman and Walker, ';Dietary Phenylalanine and Brain Function,'; Proceedings of the First International Meeting on Dietary Phenylalanine and Brain Function., Washington, D.C., May 8, 1987.
(7) Hearing Before the Committee On Labor and Human Resources United States Senate, First Session on Examing the Health and Safety Concerns of Nutrasweet (Aspartame).
(8) Account of John Cook as published in Informed Consent Magazine. ';How Safe Is Your Artificial Sweetner'; by Barbara Mullarkey, September/October 1994.
(9) Woodrow C. Monte, Ph.D., R.D., ';Aspartame: Methanol and the Public Health,'; Journal of Applied Nutrition, 36 (1): 42-53.
(10) US Court of Appeals for the District of Columbia Circuit, No. 84-1153 Community Nutrition Institute and Dr Woodrow Monte v. Dr Mark Novitch, Acting Commissioner, US FDA (9/24/85).
(11) Aspartame Time Line by Barbara Mullarkey as published in Informed Consent Magazine, May/June 1994.
(12) FDA Searle Investigation Task Force. ';Final Report of Investigation of G.D. Searle Company.'; (March 24, 1976)
(13) Testimony of Dr Jacqueline Verrett, FDA Toxicologist before the US Senate Committee on Labor and Human Resources, (November 3, 1987).
http://www.mercola.com/article/aspartame鈥?/a>
How can we place that many resources into the research of aspartame, but not approach marijuana with the same degree of treatment?We've scrutinized and researched drugs like aspartame ad nauseum...why can't we do the same with marijuana?
If i understand your question correctly, the answer is... money (creation of profit). Not just sustainability, but fiefdom riches accrue to patent holders, manufacturers, and politicians. It matters not who is in the majority because the game is rigged to perpetuate the income stream of those so entitled. Science is not cheap, and research funds are minimal for marijuana. The big pharma lobby sells directly to the american public via FCC media, disclaimers blasting. They will not give an inch for a weed providing relief and relaxation.
.We've scrutinized and researched drugs like aspartame ad nauseum...why can't we do the same with marijuana?
And no, the govt doesn't 'own' the networks outright, but rather through advertising and contracts.
http://www.thenation.com/speci鈥?/a>
Great question, and thanks for the link detailing the big ten. A paying sponsor is the key, and big pharma can do that. Nearly a century of propaganda leaves us scrambling to 'ask our doctor' about the latest prescription meds, and additional meds to ameliorate the nasty side effects. Televangelists
The desire to keep marijuana banned has nothing to do with its health effects and everything to do with the backwards social views of conservatives, and the hefty Prison Industrial Complex and all the people making a living off fighting drugs (whether or not it actually does any good does not matter as long as they get paid.)
Aspartame is probably more harmful in the long run than marjiuana, LMAO.
Damn FDA and their crony BS.
Years ago the FDA actually banned stevia for sale as a sweetener coinciding with the release of a patented blockbuster artificial sweetener, in order to eliminate competition.
There is still much crony regulation to eliminate competition for patented big $$$ sweeteners.
Marijuana has been researched. That is why some states allow medical marijuana.
Medical Marijuana is kind of a joke. It's a ploy that the legalization movement came up with in the late 80s to sway people against decriminalization for a more ';legitimate'; purpose.
The medicinal benefits of marijuana, if you actually look into it, are not even remotely unique to the drug and can be had from other pharmaceuticals. Not to mention it is the only ';smokeable'; pharmaceutical to ever exist since the introduction of the FDA in 1906.
That said, I'm glad that so many people are on board with medicinal marijuana in this country (it's clearly worked) because I do believe in full legalization. I just am of the opinion (ironically... because it's mostly shared by people on the other side of the debate) that medicinal marijuana is a shallow concept and should be ignored in favor of full legalization.
It's about damn time we got around to seriously reconsidering our drug laws in this country.
aspartame is a sweetener added to food. everyone could potentially be consuming it every day. Marijuana is not a food and even if it was legal many people would not use it.
However there has been alot of research and scrutinizing of it. go look it up theres a ton of marijuana studies.
Just doing a search on it shows a bunch of them reported this year and obviously no consensus. one study says its good another says its not etc..
They did in the sixties. Same time they tested LSD on the Public.
They were looking for ways to control people and it didn't work so they made it illegal instead.
They are going to legalize pot. It is in the news a lot and polls are being taken.
I wonder after all the egg frying (your brain on pot) how they are going to say it is OK now.
Well let us take a logical look???... Marijuana is almost impossible to tax. while aspartame is making a killing, literally. I think from my own perspective I would value human life over money. But I guess that's just not very american of me.. so I guess like our wonderful government who we pay taxes to, I better figure out my priorities aspartame has no health value and is being linked to health issues such as seizures and cancer. I guess to be american we must start wanting money and valuing cheating on our wives and being a@@holes instead of good Intelligent people.
G@d i love our stupid fellow Americans who don't ask questions but follow without any doubt or desire to challenge.
I am not a pot smoker. nor do I want to be. But after reviewing both I would choose pot over aspartame. pot is natural where aspartame three man made chemicals. It is unhealthy and is being linked to many illnesses like seizures to name one. I was shocked to see how many people have no idea what the government feeds us. read up people.
Aspartame is the methyl ester of the dipeptide of the natural amino acids L-aspartic acid and L-phenylalanine. Under strongly acidic or alkaline conditions, aspartame may generate methanol by hydrolysis. Under more severe conditions, the peptide bonds are also hydrolyzed, resulting in the free amino acids
In certain markets aspartame is manufactured using a genetically modified variation of E. coli.[9]
The fda is a government organization. I believed at one time they wanted to keep America safe. Now I am a little more aware.
The reason has to be money. Aspartame is 3 chemicals that are not good to consume. I know from the animals they tested all suffered seizures and 6 out of 7 monkeys eventually died. The fda approved the drug and now is in every diet food in the market. Its also in most gums.
I have been researching marijuana since 1965 and have found nothing wrong with it. In fact, when I had my aortal valve replacement the hospital suggested I take marijuana to help strengthen my heart. It works.
I got some aspartame by mistke when it first came out in Coca Cola and I almost died ... went into Phenylketonuric Shock. The doctor said that a little more and it would have killed me. Turns out Aspartame was a govt experiment used on the troops to sustain wakefulness. But Monsanto saw the potential to make money so they kill 250,000 people each year with the poison Aspartame.
Actually all the research into marijuana yielded the pharmaceutical marinol which helps many people each year. I prefer the natural ';nature made'; variety but I only do a puff or two a few times a day and don't do it to get ';stoned'; any more. It just takes the edge off and eliminates occasional nausea symptoms. There are a LOT of tests showing that those who have lung damage from tobacco can actually repair the damage by smoking marijuana. The hospital confirmed it.
I AM
Dartagnonhair ideas
(1) Department of Health and Human Services, Report on All Adverse Reactions in the Adverse Reaction Monitoring System, (February 25 and 28, 1994).
(2) Compiled by researchers, physicians, and artificial sweetner experts for Mission Possible, a group dedicated to warning consumers about aspartame.
(3) Excitotoxins: The Taste That Kills, by Russell L. Blaylock, M.D.
(4) Safety of Amino Acids, Life Sciences Research Office, FASEB, FDA Contract No. 223-88-2124, Task Order No. 8.
(5) FDA Adverse Reaction Monitoring System.
(6) Wurtman and Walker, ';Dietary Phenylalanine and Brain Function,'; Proceedings of the First International Meeting on Dietary Phenylalanine and Brain Function., Washington, D.C., May 8, 1987.
(7) Hearing Before the Committee On Labor and Human Resources United States Senate, First Session on Examing the Health and Safety Concerns of Nutrasweet (Aspartame).
(8) Account of John Cook as published in Informed Consent Magazine. ';How Safe Is Your Artificial Sweetner'; by Barbara Mullarkey, September/October 1994.
(9) Woodrow C. Monte, Ph.D., R.D., ';Aspartame: Methanol and the Public Health,'; Journal of Applied Nutrition, 36 (1): 42-53.
(10) US Court of Appeals for the District of Columbia Circuit, No. 84-1153 Community Nutrition Institute and Dr Woodrow Monte v. Dr Mark Novitch, Acting Commissioner, US FDA (9/24/85).
(11) Aspartame Time Line by Barbara Mullarkey as published in Informed Consent Magazine, May/June 1994.
(12) FDA Searle Investigation Task Force. ';Final Report of Investigation of G.D. Searle Company.'; (March 24, 1976)
(13) Testimony of Dr Jacqueline Verrett, FDA Toxicologist before the US Senate Committee on Labor and Human Resources, (November 3, 1987).
http://www.mercola.com/article/aspartame鈥?/a>
How can we place that many resources into the research of aspartame, but not approach marijuana with the same degree of treatment?We've scrutinized and researched drugs like aspartame ad nauseum...why can't we do the same with marijuana?
If i understand your question correctly, the answer is... money (creation of profit). Not just sustainability, but fiefdom riches accrue to patent holders, manufacturers, and politicians. It matters not who is in the majority because the game is rigged to perpetuate the income stream of those so entitled. Science is not cheap, and research funds are minimal for marijuana. The big pharma lobby sells directly to the american public via FCC media, disclaimers blasting. They will not give an inch for a weed providing relief and relaxation.
.We've scrutinized and researched drugs like aspartame ad nauseum...why can't we do the same with marijuana?
And no, the govt doesn't 'own' the networks outright, but rather through advertising and contracts.
http://www.thenation.com/speci鈥?/a>
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Great question, and thanks for the link detailing the big ten. A paying sponsor is the key, and big pharma can do that. Nearly a century of propaganda leaves us scrambling to 'ask our doctor' about the latest prescription meds, and additional meds to ameliorate the nasty side effects. Televangelists
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The desire to keep marijuana banned has nothing to do with its health effects and everything to do with the backwards social views of conservatives, and the hefty Prison Industrial Complex and all the people making a living off fighting drugs (whether or not it actually does any good does not matter as long as they get paid.)
Aspartame is probably more harmful in the long run than marjiuana, LMAO.
Damn FDA and their crony BS.
Years ago the FDA actually banned stevia for sale as a sweetener coinciding with the release of a patented blockbuster artificial sweetener, in order to eliminate competition.
There is still much crony regulation to eliminate competition for patented big $$$ sweeteners.
Marijuana has been researched. That is why some states allow medical marijuana.
Medical Marijuana is kind of a joke. It's a ploy that the legalization movement came up with in the late 80s to sway people against decriminalization for a more ';legitimate'; purpose.
The medicinal benefits of marijuana, if you actually look into it, are not even remotely unique to the drug and can be had from other pharmaceuticals. Not to mention it is the only ';smokeable'; pharmaceutical to ever exist since the introduction of the FDA in 1906.
That said, I'm glad that so many people are on board with medicinal marijuana in this country (it's clearly worked) because I do believe in full legalization. I just am of the opinion (ironically... because it's mostly shared by people on the other side of the debate) that medicinal marijuana is a shallow concept and should be ignored in favor of full legalization.
It's about damn time we got around to seriously reconsidering our drug laws in this country.
aspartame is a sweetener added to food. everyone could potentially be consuming it every day. Marijuana is not a food and even if it was legal many people would not use it.
However there has been alot of research and scrutinizing of it. go look it up theres a ton of marijuana studies.
Just doing a search on it shows a bunch of them reported this year and obviously no consensus. one study says its good another says its not etc..
They did in the sixties. Same time they tested LSD on the Public.
They were looking for ways to control people and it didn't work so they made it illegal instead.
They are going to legalize pot. It is in the news a lot and polls are being taken.
I wonder after all the egg frying (your brain on pot) how they are going to say it is OK now.
Well let us take a logical look???... Marijuana is almost impossible to tax. while aspartame is making a killing, literally. I think from my own perspective I would value human life over money. But I guess that's just not very american of me.. so I guess like our wonderful government who we pay taxes to, I better figure out my priorities aspartame has no health value and is being linked to health issues such as seizures and cancer. I guess to be american we must start wanting money and valuing cheating on our wives and being a@@holes instead of good Intelligent people.
G@d i love our stupid fellow Americans who don't ask questions but follow without any doubt or desire to challenge.
I am not a pot smoker. nor do I want to be. But after reviewing both I would choose pot over aspartame. pot is natural where aspartame three man made chemicals. It is unhealthy and is being linked to many illnesses like seizures to name one. I was shocked to see how many people have no idea what the government feeds us. read up people.
Aspartame is the methyl ester of the dipeptide of the natural amino acids L-aspartic acid and L-phenylalanine. Under strongly acidic or alkaline conditions, aspartame may generate methanol by hydrolysis. Under more severe conditions, the peptide bonds are also hydrolyzed, resulting in the free amino acids
In certain markets aspartame is manufactured using a genetically modified variation of E. coli.[9]
The fda is a government organization. I believed at one time they wanted to keep America safe. Now I am a little more aware.
The reason has to be money. Aspartame is 3 chemicals that are not good to consume. I know from the animals they tested all suffered seizures and 6 out of 7 monkeys eventually died. The fda approved the drug and now is in every diet food in the market. Its also in most gums.
I have been researching marijuana since 1965 and have found nothing wrong with it. In fact, when I had my aortal valve replacement the hospital suggested I take marijuana to help strengthen my heart. It works.
I got some aspartame by mistke when it first came out in Coca Cola and I almost died ... went into Phenylketonuric Shock. The doctor said that a little more and it would have killed me. Turns out Aspartame was a govt experiment used on the troops to sustain wakefulness. But Monsanto saw the potential to make money so they kill 250,000 people each year with the poison Aspartame.
Actually all the research into marijuana yielded the pharmaceutical marinol which helps many people each year. I prefer the natural ';nature made'; variety but I only do a puff or two a few times a day and don't do it to get ';stoned'; any more. It just takes the edge off and eliminates occasional nausea symptoms. There are a LOT of tests showing that those who have lung damage from tobacco can actually repair the damage by smoking marijuana. The hospital confirmed it.
I AM
Dartagnon
I live in a state where medical marijuana is legal. I have M.S . My Dr wants me try marinol. Has anyone tried ?
it? My Dr says she won't sign the certification because she does not condone smoking. I wanted to tell her there are others ways, Montel cooks with it. But I didn't want to argue. I just want to know how it will affect me. I am sure my insurance won't pay for it, I have a feeling it's expensive.I live in a state where medical marijuana is legal. I have M.S . My Dr wants me try marinol. Has anyone tried ?
It is generaly used as Anti-Depressant, however, I do not trust it at all. Major and critical side effects amongst which are; Dizziness, drowsiness, irritability, mood changes, difficulty concentrating, distorted vision, dry mouth and changes in appetite may occur especially the first several days as your body adjusts to the medication. If any of these effects continue or become bothersome, inform your doctor. Notify your doctor if you develop: skin rash, rapid heart rate, sleep disturbances, depression, memory loss, mental confusion, hallucinations, behavior changes, numbness or tingling of the hands or feet. Be aware that this medication may cause mood or behavior changes. If you experience any such effects, remain calm. Do not take any more doses until you contact your doctor. If you notice other effects not listed above, contact your doctor or pharmacist.
The question is this. While being under the influence, how one could realise the danger and / or the need for medical care?
Think two times more than usual girl, before you take such medication.I live in a state where medical marijuana is legal. I have M.S . My Dr wants me try marinol. Has anyone tried ?
YOU MUST BE LUCKY
Marijuana can be very beneficial. My son had ALS or Lou Gehrigs disease and the marijuana helped him when prescription drugs didn't.
It is generaly used as Anti-Depressant, however, I do not trust it at all. Major and critical side effects amongst which are; Dizziness, drowsiness, irritability, mood changes, difficulty concentrating, distorted vision, dry mouth and changes in appetite may occur especially the first several days as your body adjusts to the medication. If any of these effects continue or become bothersome, inform your doctor. Notify your doctor if you develop: skin rash, rapid heart rate, sleep disturbances, depression, memory loss, mental confusion, hallucinations, behavior changes, numbness or tingling of the hands or feet. Be aware that this medication may cause mood or behavior changes. If you experience any such effects, remain calm. Do not take any more doses until you contact your doctor. If you notice other effects not listed above, contact your doctor or pharmacist.
The question is this. While being under the influence, how one could realise the danger and / or the need for medical care?
Think two times more than usual girl, before you take such medication.I live in a state where medical marijuana is legal. I have M.S . My Dr wants me try marinol. Has anyone tried ?
YOU MUST BE LUCKY
Marijuana can be very beneficial. My son had ALS or Lou Gehrigs disease and the marijuana helped him when prescription drugs didn't.
How to make marijuana snacks?
im new to making..
i had a few questions about how to make it..
do you have to heat the bud up? cuz my parents are home and i dont want it to stink. what happens if i eat the bud dry with a cracker on pnutbutter? help,
i been smoking for years not eating it so please excuse my bud cooking ignorance (:
oh yeah and how much do i need to eat to get highHow to make marijuana snacks?
THIS IS HALARIOUS CAUSE I JUST ANSWERED ONE ON HOW TO PASS A DRUG TEST. LOL
OK MY FAVORITE ARE WHITE CHOCALATE CHIP MACADAMION NUT COOKIES. JUST SOUNDS GOOD HUH.
UNFORTUANTALLY YES U DO NEED TO HEAT IT UP. I DONT KNOW IF UVE EVER EATEN WEED BUT MOST OF IT ISNT VERY GOOD, EVEN NUGGS.
EXAMLE
COOKIES MAKE OUT UR COOKIE THEN GRIND UP AND DE-SEED AND STEM IT! THEN TAKE UR COOKIE BALL AND JUST ROLL WEED INTO AND ALL THROUGH IT. ABOUT 1/2-1 GRAM PER COOKIE. THEN PUT THEM IN OVEN
WARNING DO NOT DO THIS IF UR PARNTS ARE GOING TO TRIP BECAUSE IT WILL SMELL LIKE WEED.
IVE NEVER TRIED THE PEANUT BUTTER AND CRACKERS BUT I DONT SEE WHY IT WOULDNT WORK. MY BUDDY EATS STEMS ALL THE TIME AND HE SAYS HE GETS A BUZZ!
OH YEAH IF U DO THIS UR GOING TO BE RETARTED HIGH AFTER U EAT 2-3 COOKIES. TAKES ABOUT 30 MINS
GOO LUCKHow to make marijuana snacks?
Hahaha I can't wait to see how many answers that are trying to preach to you about not doing drugs.
idk.
but i have eaten bud before and it didnt hurt me, although it did ruin brain cells, but that would be me elaborating on the subject.
well yah
that first guy is rude, ignore him.
I don't know how but people are going to talk crap to you just so you know
:/
I want to know too though.
You can not eat the plant buddy be careful cause it will make your stomach sick.. you put the pot in a small container with cooking oil in the oven. then with the oil you get after it has been in the oven you make the brownies. careful dude. I saw a friend eat one brownie and he did not feel anything right away.
so he ate like four brownies. he was telling everybody nothing happened but after 40 minutes he was asleep as a log.
so watch it it hits you hard but it takes longer for some people to get stoned this way.
stupid .you fry it.
Buy brownie mix and dump some ground up pot (no stems or seeds) into the batter... Bake according to the directions. It will smell strongly of pot smoke in the house. 2-3 brownies.
The ultimate way to eat it is to make cannabutter then add it to any recipe that calls for butter, sweet, savory whatever. However since you cant cook it atm and the marijuana needs to steep in water for 8 hours, dried on paper towels steeped in butter then strained in cheesecloth and smells all the while the best option you have is Leary biscuits which are cracker, cheese, and ground up bud. (As much as you can want/have/can tolerate, hey its not supposed to taste good and remember you wont feel it for a few so use as little as possible at first) You can top it w/ more cheese and another cracker if you wish then just pop it in the microwave. It wont really smell. You can just eat as is but heating in the microwave makes the THC more potent.
Remember weed is more soluble in alcohol, fats, or oils (such as the fat in butter, cheese and whole milk) so if you add it to any of these the body will absorb more THC.
PB Sandwhich and weed also works in a pinch :p
I agree with mr p mosh, I've been told before that you have to mix it up with some butter and then put that into whatever you're making. And you have to heat it up to get the thc out, so yeah... together with oil in the oven sounds about right.
i had a few questions about how to make it..
do you have to heat the bud up? cuz my parents are home and i dont want it to stink. what happens if i eat the bud dry with a cracker on pnutbutter? help,
i been smoking for years not eating it so please excuse my bud cooking ignorance (:
oh yeah and how much do i need to eat to get highHow to make marijuana snacks?
THIS IS HALARIOUS CAUSE I JUST ANSWERED ONE ON HOW TO PASS A DRUG TEST. LOL
OK MY FAVORITE ARE WHITE CHOCALATE CHIP MACADAMION NUT COOKIES. JUST SOUNDS GOOD HUH.
UNFORTUANTALLY YES U DO NEED TO HEAT IT UP. I DONT KNOW IF UVE EVER EATEN WEED BUT MOST OF IT ISNT VERY GOOD, EVEN NUGGS.
EXAMLE
COOKIES MAKE OUT UR COOKIE THEN GRIND UP AND DE-SEED AND STEM IT! THEN TAKE UR COOKIE BALL AND JUST ROLL WEED INTO AND ALL THROUGH IT. ABOUT 1/2-1 GRAM PER COOKIE. THEN PUT THEM IN OVEN
WARNING DO NOT DO THIS IF UR PARNTS ARE GOING TO TRIP BECAUSE IT WILL SMELL LIKE WEED.
IVE NEVER TRIED THE PEANUT BUTTER AND CRACKERS BUT I DONT SEE WHY IT WOULDNT WORK. MY BUDDY EATS STEMS ALL THE TIME AND HE SAYS HE GETS A BUZZ!
OH YEAH IF U DO THIS UR GOING TO BE RETARTED HIGH AFTER U EAT 2-3 COOKIES. TAKES ABOUT 30 MINS
GOO LUCKHow to make marijuana snacks?
Hahaha I can't wait to see how many answers that are trying to preach to you about not doing drugs.
idk.
but i have eaten bud before and it didnt hurt me, although it did ruin brain cells, but that would be me elaborating on the subject.
well yah
that first guy is rude, ignore him.
I don't know how but people are going to talk crap to you just so you know
:/
I want to know too though.
You can not eat the plant buddy be careful cause it will make your stomach sick.. you put the pot in a small container with cooking oil in the oven. then with the oil you get after it has been in the oven you make the brownies. careful dude. I saw a friend eat one brownie and he did not feel anything right away.
so he ate like four brownies. he was telling everybody nothing happened but after 40 minutes he was asleep as a log.
so watch it it hits you hard but it takes longer for some people to get stoned this way.
stupid .you fry it.
Buy brownie mix and dump some ground up pot (no stems or seeds) into the batter... Bake according to the directions. It will smell strongly of pot smoke in the house. 2-3 brownies.
The ultimate way to eat it is to make cannabutter then add it to any recipe that calls for butter, sweet, savory whatever. However since you cant cook it atm and the marijuana needs to steep in water for 8 hours, dried on paper towels steeped in butter then strained in cheesecloth and smells all the while the best option you have is Leary biscuits which are cracker, cheese, and ground up bud. (As much as you can want/have/can tolerate, hey its not supposed to taste good and remember you wont feel it for a few so use as little as possible at first) You can top it w/ more cheese and another cracker if you wish then just pop it in the microwave. It wont really smell. You can just eat as is but heating in the microwave makes the THC more potent.
Remember weed is more soluble in alcohol, fats, or oils (such as the fat in butter, cheese and whole milk) so if you add it to any of these the body will absorb more THC.
PB Sandwhich and weed also works in a pinch :p
I agree with mr p mosh, I've been told before that you have to mix it up with some butter and then put that into whatever you're making. And you have to heat it up to get the thc out, so yeah... together with oil in the oven sounds about right.
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